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I wanted to ask something but I’m not very good at wording things…. I often think I’ve put the wrong words to express something and then end up deleting it or that nobody cares anyway 

Yes, this is me.

Yeah I used to end up doing this with some of our friends in the group chat and then thought ooo nooo they won’t want to know about that or they might take that the wrong way so end up deleting them. And then I used to get told off about it quite badly…. Which made my anxiety about it a lot worse. But I thought all of my friends know what I’m like with wording things they know it’s because I don’t always articulate it properly and worry 

Yeah I used to end up doing this with some of our friends in the group chat and then thought ooo nooo they won’t want to know about that or they might take that the wrong way so end up deleting them. And then I used to get told off about it quite badly…. Which made my anxiety about it a lot worse. But I thought all of my friends know what I’m like with wording things they know it’s because I don’t always articulate it properly and worry 

I think he was instigating it a lot with them behind the scenes though and I just never got to find out properly 

Yeah, that must have hurt, especially from someone who should have been supportive. Then it can be crushing. It's a big deal to work through that.

It's very confusing when people have unexpected negative reactions, or reactions you can't quite read or understand.

On work platforms I use emojis a lot to try convey a light hearted tone in the hope of a positive reaction.

Here it helps a bit as everyone is just trying their best and getting it wrong sometimes. You aren't on your own with it.

I think it’s because when I used to write to my ex and write things happy he would still somehow shout at me over it so just stopped trusting what I was sharing 

Yeah me too 

It's so tough isn't it. I am going to try work on having more courage.