Is anyone else having a really hard time at work? I've started a new job and I absolutely love most of the team and the actual job but I'm really struggling with some members of the team.
I'm still new and learning and don't tend to respond well to harsh overly sarcastic feedback and jokes along the lines of 'have you finally done something right'. I do absolutely want to learn and want to be told how to improve but the tone certain team members use has really upset me on multiple occasions.
Recently when discussing this with the person and a supportive team leader the person said something incredibly hurtful and told me that I need to toughen up because they are like that with everyone and can't be expected to change for me.
I really hate the that's just what they are like thing. It doesn't mean it's okay. My (also autistic) best friend says it's bullying and I need to raise this to my manager (who is aware as they've been informed of this previously). I hate to think I'm causing problems for them and I just don't feel like it would go anywhere. The more supportive team members are already aware I am autistic and now this person is too but I really felt like I was forced to disclose this while not being entirely comfortable. It just feels like such a mess and I'm going to have this problem anywhere I go.
