If you are extremely articulate then your seen as extremely able. What can you do if you can’t mix with people and are highly sensitive person but seen as very able and full of attitude. Do you think this is not autistic?
If you are extremely articulate then your seen as extremely able. What can you do if you can’t mix with people and are highly sensitive person but seen as very able and full of attitude. Do you think this is not autistic?
As far as I can remember, you didn't say anything that required deleting or that required and apology.
Try not to remove your voice. You are entitled to say what you think. If you think something, it is likely someone else thinks the same thing but doesn't want to say. So you are speaking for them too. If you delete them you remove their voice too.
Even if you change your mind it is best to leave the original post and just say you changed your mind. You don't need to be sorry for thinking something.
I think you said you would find lots of questions quite hard, which is fine. It can be scary to speak up in case other people question your view. When stressed questions feel like criticism or interrogation, and seem like conflict. But questions are normally for clarification so people can try to understand, it shows interest. Some can seem hard if you are not used to it, but it is how dialogue and exchanges of views happen.
However, people also want to reach out online because they don't have anywhere else. If they find it intimidating they should not be put off. It gets easier with time, and you get your personal sensitivity setting right. It is still helpful to make contact with people online as it supports their social interaction skills, even if it doesn't always feel like it. Every interaction is a learning opportunity even if it requires a little bit of bravery.
And you can always reduce questions by making your point clear, saying why you want something, making closed statements, or just replying to others comments.
I think quite a few people look but don't comment. They miss out on the interaction they probably want.
It might be worth reflecting on whether forums feel like a supportive space for you right now, especially if questions are being perceived as conflict
You are right, I'm sorry, I don't know how to be different. I can't delete.
I feel your comment comes across as an accusation. To clarify, I wasn’t assuming everyone can cope. My earlier point about reflecting on whether forums feel supportive recognises that people have different experiences and reactions.
You're assuming everyone is fully regulated and can cope. It is best to be a little gentle till you know people.
I'm not saying you aren't, but just something to consider.
It takes courage to reach out. Even the timid should be encouraged. It is not easy. It shouldn't just be for those that are tough.
I did it from the start, even though fragile because I've used forums for 25 years, but not everyone has.
A forum is a space where people can share knowledge, ask questions, and discuss ideas around a specific topic or interest. It allows members to learn from each other, exchange experiences, debate different viewpoints, and offer support, while also creating a searchable archive of information for future reference. Essentially, forums connect people and foster community around shared interests.
It might be worth reflecting on whether forums feel like a supportive space for you right now, especially if questions are being perceived as conflict.
You mentioned feeling angry. Many people, whether neurotypical or neurodivergent, experience strong emotions when something matters to them.
You’ve mentioned identifying as autistic, even without a formal diagnosis. Some people find it helpful to stay open to different possibilities while continuing to focus on their strengths.
You expressed concerns about whether professionals are aware of autistic females. Some people find it useful to look into assessment processes for their own understanding.
You also mentioned concerns about paying for an assessment if the result is negative. Some people find that assessments can still offer clarity and reassurance, even if the outcome is different from what they anticipated.
Assessments aren’t meant to confirm any particular expectation. Staying open to what you might learn can provide useful insights, no matter the outcome.
Many people feel relief when evaluations show they do not have certain conditions. Similarly, an autism assessment can provide helpful insight and reassurance, regardless of the outcome.
Sharing your thoughts on these questions can help others understand your perspective and explore ways to offer support. Speaking with professionals is always an option if you wish.
I’m genuinely interested in hearing more about the experiences or traits that make you feel autistic, and which aspects resonate most with you.
People aren't saying you won't get a positive diagnosis. They are just saying being articulate shouldn't make much difference. It doesn't prove it one way or the other.
Highly sensitive person (HSP) is not and an illness or condition. It is just a feature, like introvert or extrovert.
Inability to socialise depends on the reason. Whether you struggle to know when to speak, talk too long, always steer the conversation to your topic, are blunt, too literal, detail focussed, struggle to start and stop conversations, etc.
The place I used for my assessment had an initial consultation, about 60-90 minutes. After this they would decide whether to proceed with the formal diagnosis. If they stopped it was a quarter of the price, something like that. If they continued it didn't guarantee it would be positive, but at least they told the people that definitely weren't fairly quickly and saved them some money. Maybe that type of thing could help you.
Just to be clear I’m not articulate and there’s no tone in this post and I’m not full of attitude but I am highly sensitive person. Just wanted ask the question as I appear to people like I have an attitude problem when I’m just angry about some important things to me. I recognise I don’t think the same as anyone but I know that being a highly sensitive person is neurodivergent and that’s definitely me. I would like to have another assessment as I believe the people who assessed me where so lovely but not possibly aware of people like me who is autistic but female and I know I don’t appear autistic but I am and I should be given a nhs verified diagnosis instead of living with out the diagnosis and also because I didn’t go into the appointment with my memory and mental health state properly. But from everything I’ve read in regards to assessment on this post. I think that I’m getting the message that it’s highly likely I won’t be diagnosed as autistic even though I am. So that’s actually the truth of it and it’s not worth paying for an assessment to get told I’m not. Thanks for all your replies as they are all good and helpful but I’m sorry I didn’t answer any of the questions that’s been asked.
Happy new year when it comes!
This is really good way of putting it.
I'm easily able to articulate things that people don't understand or want to talk about!
If you were assessed a long time ago, it is possible views have changed since.
But other conditions can look similar to autism, like anxiety disorders, personality disorders., trauma. This is why just a questionnaire is not enough for a formal diagnosis. There are sensory, communication and cognitive differences, which are assessed. It is not just what you say, but how you say it and what you leave out.
You say you "should be diagnosed". Is it for personal validation? It is not a magic wand that solves stuff. It doesn't fix your problems and there is limited help as it is not 'curable'. You just have to figure out how best to cope.
Most therapy is aimed at allowing you to regulate your nervous system so that you can make well reasoned decisions and function normally. It doesn't remove the past, it just allows you to tolerate emotions without being overwhelmed.
The key giveaway for autism is burnout. Reduced functioning, emotional fragility, lasting months. The objective here is to reduce load to give the nervous system a chance to rebalance
You mention that you had an assessment and describe yourself as “autistic neurodivergent,” even though you were not formally diagnosed.
What does “appearing autistic” mean in the context of an assessment?
You mentioned that you “don’t have money to waste”. Is a diagnosis something you feel you really want or need?
Why do you believe you should be diagnosed?
What do you mean by being “erased”?
Is an assessment necessary?
Do you need or want other people's validation?
Realistically, what would you achieve from a diagnosis?
Would you receive the treatment you believe you need or want?
Is it a fact that humans who are "extremely articulate" are seen as "extremely able"? Able in what regard?
Is it possible that there are neurotypical people who are extremely articulate and cannot mix with others?
Is it possible that there are neurotypical people who are extremely sensitive?
Is it acceptable to be a person who is full of attitude, perceived as able, and neurotypical?
Whether or not you are diagnosed with autism, the only way you will be in a position to find friends is by getting out and about. It’s very difficult to find genuine friends online.
Your GP would be the first person to speak to about your difficulty in mixing with others. You may be offered counselling or help from service providers that could provide support as you seek to meet people who could be potential friends.
Good friendships are often forged through shared common interests. You could consider volunteering for a charity that works for the interests of horses/dogs/older people/people with learning difficulties/social justice/poverty etc., or take a short course in a subject of interest at a local community college/library/council supported scheme.
I realise that these things may seem impossible to you right now, but you can take baby steps to achieving your goals, one small step at a time.
Thanks
No, but I do want some friends in real life who are straightforward.