Articulate?

Just to be clear I’m not articulate and there’s no tone in this post and I’m not full of attitude but I am highly sensitive person. Just wanted ask the question as I appear to people like I have an attitude problem when I’m just angry about some important things to me. I recognise I don’t think the same as anyone but I know that being a highly sensitive person is neurodivergent and that’s definitely me. I would like to have another assessment as I believe the people who assessed me where so lovely but not possibly aware of people like me who is autistic but female and I know I don’t appear autistic but I am and I should be given a nhs verified diagnosis instead of living with out the diagnosis and also because I didn’t go into the appointment with my memory and mental health state properly. But from everything I’ve read in regards to assessment on this post. I think that I’m getting the message that it’s highly likely I won’t be diagnosed as autistic even though I am. So that’s actually the truth of it and it’s not worth paying for an assessment to get told I’m not.  Thanks for all your replies as they are all good and helpful but I’m sorry I didn’t answer any of the questions that’s been asked. 

Happy new year when it comes!

Just to be clear I’m not articulate and there’s no tone in this post and I’m not full of attitude but I am highly sensitive person. Just wanted ask the question as I appear to people like I have an attitude problem when I’m just angry about some important things to me. I recognise I don’t think the same as anyone but I know that being a highly sensitive person is neurodivergent and that’s definitely me. I would like to have another assessment as I believe the people who assessed me where so lovely but not possibly aware of people like me who is autistic but female and I know I don’t appear autistic but I am and I should be given a nhs verified diagnosis instead of living with out the diagnosis and also because I didn’t go into the appointment with my memory and mental health state properly. But from everything I’ve read in regards to assessment on this post. I think that I’m getting the message that it’s highly likely I won’t be diagnosed as autistic even though I am. So that’s actually the truth of it and it’s not worth paying for an assessment to get told I’m not.  Thanks for all your replies as they are all good and helpful but I’m sorry I didn’t answer any of the questions that’s been asked. 

Happy new year when it comes!

I feel you. I would have run a mile from all these questions, I can't handle conflict to the point of dissociation. 

I started by writing down all the things I knew I had a problem with and trying to figure out why I couldn't do things. I asked myself questions then tried to answer them myself, but it takes time and I have to let each play in my mind. I think best when doing other things. I also kept checking those issues against Neurodivergent Insights misdiagnosis Monday articles with the van diagrams, to check different conditions myself before going for a private assessment of what seemed most likely. As you are paying, it helps to make sure you are in the right place to start with. Some places, the first appointment can be a one off screener, so you only move on if they think it's worth while for you. 

Reframe and readdress. We are here for you Water 

You mentioned that you are feeling angry. It’s important to note that experiencing anger is not limited to any particular neurotype. Many people, neurotypical or otherwise, can feel strongly about issues that matter to them.

You have also mentioned being autistic, though you have not received a formal diagnosis. It may be helpful to remain open to the possibility that you might not be autistic, while continuing to focus on your strengths regardless of diagnostic labels.

You expressed concerns that the professionals who assessed you might not be aware of autistic females. If you have questions about their process or perspective, reaching out to them directly could provide helpful clarification.

You also mentioned that you feel it’s not worth paying for an assessment if the result is a “no” diagnosis. It may help to remember that the purpose of an assessment is to gather information and clarity, not simply to confirm a diagnosis. An assessment can offer a second professional opinion and reassurance, even if the outcome is that you are not autistic.

Assessments are not designed to confirm a specific expectation. Approaching them with an open mind can help provide useful insight, even if the outcome differs from what you hope. 

Many people feel relief when evaluations show they do not have a neurological condition, cancer, sexually transmitted diseases, or other health concerns. In the same way, an autism assessment can provide valuable insight and peace of mind, regardless of the specific outcome.

It would also be helpful to see more engagement with the questions we have asked. Responding to these questions allows us to better understand your perspective and explore ways we can support you. Consulting with professionals remains an option that has been offered in this forum.

I am genuinely interested in learning more about what makes you feel you are autistic, and which aspects of yourself you most identify with in this regard.

People aren't saying you won't get a positive diagnosis. They are just saying being articulate shouldn't make much difference. It doesn't prove it one way or the other.

Highly sensitive person (HSP) is not and an illness or condition. It is just a feature, like introvert or extrovert. 

Inability to socialise depends on the reason. Whether you struggle to know when to speak, talk too long, always steer the conversation to your topic, are blunt, too literal, detail focussed, struggle to start and stop conversations, etc.

The place I used for my assessment had an initial consultation, about 60-90 minutes. After this they would decide whether to proceed with the formal diagnosis. If they stopped it was a quarter of the price, something like that. If they continued it didn't guarantee it would be positive, but at least they told the people that definitely weren't fairly quickly and saved them some money. Maybe that type of thing could help you.