Making friends over 40

Have you tried Meet Up? There are online meetings including for autistic or introverted people, not sure if it’s my cup of tea but perhaps it’s something for you?

You say you cannot go out - does that include for things you like doing by yourself (if there are such things, going for a walk perhaps?). I met some people by joining a swim group (something I like to do anyway) and via Reddit in the neighbourhood, we started a book club (another thing I like to do anyway). Next idea is to join an acting class.. All of these things are primarily about an activity, and because of that they are time bound (2h is my sweet spot, after that I need to withdraw), giving it a predictable frame. So suggestion is to do what you would like to do *anyway*, and perhaps something that is time frames. That assumes you can/ want to go outside for things you like doing. Otherwise, I’d start with using Meet Up. 

Thank you B. It is hard to add value when you are just a little moth. I don't always say the right things, but at least I can bump posts up a bit.

Cinnabar_wing said:

I don't find online that helpful either as I tend to feel stupid for saying things then delete my posts as they aren't worth reading,

I have noticed that you do this  

I saw one disappear earlier.

I enjoy what you write and think you make an important contribution. 

I don't know, I think with all the apps, as a society we are more isolated and alone than ever, even NT's must struggle with this too surely? I think that's why there is such crisis in young people as they aren't learning social skills either due to only socialising on social media which isn't real. 

I don't find online that helpful either as I tend to feel stupid for saying things then delete my posts as they aren't worth reading, but at least someone else might give you a better answer.