Really struggling at the moment

So sorry Elfilis , that honestly sounds like a nightmare scenario. They sound like the most base level bullies, who take joy in the suffering of others. 

Do you keep a journal of all the incidents? It might be worthwhile in case you get to the point of reporting it, so there is a record you can refer back to. At the very least it gives some power back to you. 

Does anything work to help with the noise? Annoyingly a lot of noise cancelling stuff let's in human voices, and playing music doesn't help when you need a bit of quiet. 

I wish there was something to fix the situation for you, but short of moving, which would be unfair and not necessarily possible for you. Maybe get a dart board and stick it on the adjoin wall, so when you get annoyed you have something to throw. (I feel all my advice revolves around throwing something.)

Aww thank you so much for replying. Oh they are right old bullies these neighbours. From what I have gathered it’s the nan who lives in the flat itself and the grandkids seem to come of a weekend or after school/nursery and it’s like practically every day I have to suffer with this. The fact that the grandparents and even parents don’t tell them off or teach them right from wrong is really bad in my opinion, like they all think we should bow down to them. 

I have a tapo camera doorbell at my front door in the hallway which records any motion and also has the date and time on the recording as well so I have got evidence if I have to take legal action. Annoyingly the video couldn’t detect the football getting kicked against my door or my doormat being kicked so I may need to move my doorbell so that’s easy enough I guess. Just fed up of all the rude gestures and nasty words and faces I get in the videos. It’s really gets to me. 

I actually not long moved into my flat and the reason why I moved was because I was getting bullied by the neighbours next door and opposite me! 

As for noise, I sometimes put the radio or something on in the hallway but more often or not I just have my tv on louder and play my games to drown them out. But of course when they bang and slam their door it causes my flat to vibrate as well! 

That sounds a great idea with a dart board. Id probably just print one off and throw paper at it! 

Kicking a ball at the door is just nasty and mean. I really can't understand why people are like this, having been on the recieving end myself plenty of times. 

And yeah, there are horrible people everywhere. At least it's mainly the grandparent, at some point the kids will grow out of kicking balls at anything, so maybe it's a waiting game?

In the mean time, I think I would just concentrate on doing things to elevate your stress. Maybe have a tally chart, and when you feel upset by them, mark it off, then when you have enough, get yourself something as you deserve it! Maybe it would take the edge off it?

Say the police are useless, not even sure if video evidence would be good enough for them. I mean one time my cousin had his car stolen and he had video evidence but the police didn’t even care or do anything about it. 

I am very tempted to move out but it’s convincing my parents to help me with all the legal stuff and moving is a very stressful process. I’d also worry I’d just have the same issues in a new place, I mean I moved from one lot of bullies to another, don’t know what is wrong with me ugh.

Maybe try the CAB first?

The government are setting up task forces to deal with threats and violence against women and girls, this probably won't help you much as the main thing that has to change is the attitudes of the police themselves.

Maybe have a look online and see what possiblities there are out there for moving, what you can get for your budget and where. 

Maybe try the CAB first?

The government are setting up task forces to deal with threats and violence against women and girls, this probably won't help you much as the main thing that has to change is the attitudes of the police themselves.

Maybe have a look online and see what possiblities there are out there for moving, what you can get for your budget and where. 

Say the police are useless, not even sure if video evidence would be good enough for them. I mean one time my cousin had his car stolen and he had video evidence but the police didn’t even care or do anything about it. 

I am very tempted to move out but it’s convincing my parents to help me with all the legal stuff and moving is a very stressful process. I’d also worry I’d just have the same issues in a new place, I mean I moved from one lot of bullies to another, don’t know what is wrong with me ugh.