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Really struggling at the moment

Elfilis

As the title says. Guess it’s another rant post again so sorry for this. 

Been having such awful times since last Friday. Everyone is just being so mean to me, especially my bully neighbours Sob. All this stress has just got the better of me (despite trying to avoid or distract myself from stress) and it’s leading to daily headaches which are throbbing like crazy. I’ve had my Christmas decorations mocked and scoffed by these neighbours and they keep screaming and crying and even kicking footballs into my door. Annoyingly my doorbell camera can’t seem to pick up the kicking of the football into my door or even my doormat being kicked. Whenever I open my door and they are there they now scream and cry even louder than ever and say things like ugly or something! Even getting this on my doorbell thing when they walk past. Not to mention how I am now unable to sleep because all these kids do is scream, screech, cry etc. Why do people have to be so cruel and mean? What did I do to deserve all this? I can’t help the way I look and I’m like the most modest person and even I think I am nicer looking than all of them. I’m not the one being unkind or thinking unkindly it’s everyone else so please don’t say I’m the unkind one! 

Sorry for my rant I just need to get off my chest. I can’t even enjoy my weekend or that because of them screeching!! My sims are better behaved haha! 

Parents

  • So sorry  , that honestly sounds like a nightmare scenario. They sound like the most base level bullies, who take joy in the suffering of others. 

    Do you keep a journal of all the incidents? It might be worthwhile in case you get to the point of reporting it, so there is a record you can refer back to. At the very least it gives some power back to you. 

    Does anything work to help with the noise? Annoyingly a lot of noise cancelling stuff let's in human voices, and playing music doesn't help when you need a bit of quiet. 

    I wish there was something to fix the situation for you, but short of moving, which would be unfair and not necessarily possible for you. Maybe get a dart board and stick it on the adjoin wall, so when you get annoyed you have something to throw. (I feel all my advice revolves around throwing something.)

  • in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    Aww thank you so much for replying. Oh they are right old bullies these neighbours. From what I have gathered it’s the nan who lives in the flat itself and the grandkids seem to come of a weekend or after school/nursery and it’s like practically every day I have to suffer with this. The fact that the grandparents and even parents don’t tell them off or teach them right from wrong is really bad in my opinion, like they all think we should bow down to them. 

    I have a tapo camera doorbell at my front door in the hallway which records any motion and also has the date and time on the recording as well so I have got evidence if I have to take legal action. Annoyingly the video couldn’t detect the football getting kicked against my door or my doormat being kicked so I may need to move my doorbell so that’s easy enough I guess. Just fed up of all the rude gestures and nasty words and faces I get in the videos. It’s really gets to me. 

    I actually not long moved into my flat and the reason why I moved was because I was getting bullied by the neighbours next door and opposite me! 

    As for noise, I sometimes put the radio or something on in the hallway but more often or not I just have my tv on louder and play my games to drown them out. But of course when they bang and slam their door it causes my flat to vibrate as well! 

    That sounds a great idea with a dart board. Id probably just print one off and throw paper at it! 

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  • in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    Aww thank you so much for replying. Oh they are right old bullies these neighbours. From what I have gathered it’s the nan who lives in the flat itself and the grandkids seem to come of a weekend or after school/nursery and it’s like practically every day I have to suffer with this. The fact that the grandparents and even parents don’t tell them off or teach them right from wrong is really bad in my opinion, like they all think we should bow down to them. 

    I have a tapo camera doorbell at my front door in the hallway which records any motion and also has the date and time on the recording as well so I have got evidence if I have to take legal action. Annoyingly the video couldn’t detect the football getting kicked against my door or my doormat being kicked so I may need to move my doorbell so that’s easy enough I guess. Just fed up of all the rude gestures and nasty words and faces I get in the videos. It’s really gets to me. 

    I actually not long moved into my flat and the reason why I moved was because I was getting bullied by the neighbours next door and opposite me! 

    As for noise, I sometimes put the radio or something on in the hallway but more often or not I just have my tv on louder and play my games to drown them out. But of course when they bang and slam their door it causes my flat to vibrate as well! 

    That sounds a great idea with a dart board. Id probably just print one off and throw paper at it! 

Children
  • in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    I also don’t understand why people have to be so horrible! Like they use my windows and door as their target practice. If this carries on I will be taking legal action as I have a right to defend myself and my property and they have no right to be doing what they do. I mean today the oldest grandson who has a tantrum at the sight of me (they all do though) and one of the grandads were kicking a football up and down the stairs (which my door is right next to) and my door got kicked. I ended up using an abrupt quick response via the doorbell to make them jump and they scuffled off then. 

  • in reply to Elfilis

    Kicking a ball at the door is just nasty and mean. I really can't understand why people are like this, having been on the recieving end myself plenty of times. 

    And yeah, there are horrible people everywhere. At least it's mainly the grandparent, at some point the kids will grow out of kicking balls at anything, so maybe it's a waiting game?

    In the mean time, I think I would just concentrate on doing things to elevate your stress. Maybe have a tally chart, and when you feel upset by them, mark it off, then when you have enough, get yourself something as you deserve it! Maybe it would take the edge off it?