I was diagnosed with autism in my early 30's and about ten years I'm still trying to find out who I am. Navigating relationships is really hard and I've been friends with someone for over two years now.
She's incredibly lovely and she made a huge effort to get to know me, although we have never really gone beyond anything meaningful. I never met her ex husband or her boyfriend of a year. I bumped into her today and I asked if we could meet one weekend, but she said that weekends aren't good for her, as her ex looks after their son at the weekend; I think she wants our children to hang out. However I know that she meets up with other friends at the weekend with their children.
She was always the one to contact me to meet up, but then I made the effort more. I was part of a friend group with her briefly, at a baby group which is how we met, but they all ghosted me; she's still friends with two of them. I feel like a second rate friend. We have arranged to meet the Friday after next, but I'm thinking that if she doesn't contact me, I might just give up.
My eldest has started school and I've made some really nice mum friends, but I'm petrified that they won't want to be my friend at some point. Trying to navigate neurotypical social world is so confusing and it literally makes no sense.
It might be a case of, she's just not that (platonically) into you, in which case, I think moving on emotionally would be a good idea, especially as I get the feeling that I'll never meet her new boyfriend.
