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Your tolerance to stress

Geeky Gothic Guy

Just curious as to whether other peoples tolerances to stress have improved as they’ve gotten older, or got worse. I feel mines got worse. I’m also a lot less tolerant with things. Simple things seem to stress me out more than when I was younger. What’s everyone’s else’s experience with stress tolerance? 

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  • I have to agree with most of the other posts. I am now in a constant flux of anxiety. This is about 50/50 with my late diagnosis and compounded by my employment situation leading to an employment tribunal.

    It is not the stress itself that damages oneself but the effects it has on the person regardless of the level of stress applied. Some will be more tolerant to stress in the NT world. However, in the autistic world with all our differing complexities ,stress and the stressors being applied tend to be non-conducive to a low stress life.

    What is the answer? Well it may be a unique combination of factors that are specific for each individual. What does not help is the constant struggle to survive in a NT world. 

  • in reply to Mr T

    I would like to share some of the work I have been exploring in response to stress that might be useful to you  if that's OK?

    I think in this context the issue is clearly how stressed one is to start with. If anyone’s baseline is high they have little room for more and I can empathise with your experience.

    Like anyone else when close to burn out there is the challenge to find perspective and find an answer.

    I'm having perhaps similar fun and games in respect of picking the bones out of post diagnostic and work related stressors.

    I recently came across a distinction between primary and secondary alexithymia.

    The first is genetic and maybe there are some work arounds that I think are helpful and maybe you might too.

    The second alexithymia is experience and environmental and relates to the work related bit, potentially is the bit where the employer responsibilites are most deeply established.  Everyone gets these however I am like a canary in a coal mine to these and I suspect many autistic people are too.

    Also there is a condition called delayed emotional processing which I think is closely correlated to the stress that's worth getting a handle on as both the stress of an undiagnosed life and the stresses of being unsupported, misunderstood and sometimes even repressed. that I found really insightful to explore.

    All the Best.

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