Your tolerance to stress

I have to agree with most of the other posts. I am now in a constant flux of anxiety. This is about 50/50 with my late diagnosis and compounded by my employment situation leading to an employment tribunal.

It is not the stress itself that damages oneself but the effects it has on the person regardless of the level of stress applied. Some will be more tolerant to stress in the NT world. However, in the autistic world with all our differing complexities ,stress and the stressors being applied tend to be non-conducive to a low stress life.

What is the answer? Well it may be a unique combination of factors that are specific for each individual. What does not help is the constant struggle to survive in a NT world. 

I have to agree with most of the other posts. I am now in a constant flux of anxiety. This is about 50/50 with my late diagnosis and compounded by my employment situation leading to an employment tribunal.

It is not the stress itself that damages oneself but the effects it has on the person regardless of the level of stress applied. Some will be more tolerant to stress in the NT world. However, in the autistic world with all our differing complexities ,stress and the stressors being applied tend to be non-conducive to a low stress life.

What is the answer? Well it may be a unique combination of factors that are specific for each individual. What does not help is the constant struggle to survive in a NT world. 

I would like to share some of the work I have been exploring in response to stress that might be useful to you Mr T if that's OK?

I think in this context the issue is clearly how stressed one is to start with. If anyone’s baseline is high they have little room for more and I can empathise with your experience.

Like anyone else when close to burn out there is the challenge to find perspective and find an answer.

I'm having perhaps similar fun and games in respect of picking the bones out of post diagnostic and work related stressors.

I recently came across a distinction between primary and secondary alexithymia.

The first is genetic and maybe there are some work arounds that I think are helpful and maybe you might too.

The second alexithymia is experience and environmental and relates to the work related bit, potentially is the bit where the employer responsibilites are most deeply established.  Everyone gets these however I am like a canary in a coal mine to these and I suspect many autistic people are too.

Also there is a condition called delayed emotional processing which I think is closely correlated to the stress that's worth getting a handle on as both the stress of an undiagnosed life and the stresses of being unsupported, misunderstood and sometimes even repressed. that I found really insightful to explore.

All the Best.

It too feel this form of distress Mr T 

I personally think there may be some work-arounds however the NT world makes it especially important to use them and often hard to employ them.

It is especially frustrating that we feel in a struggle to survive when remarkably we have access to so much wealth of knowledge and material (albeit restricted by aspects of the NT world).

Self-realisation is often described as being a key to self-actualisation and happiness (not just struggling to survive).  Maybe this is the answer and I think what you are doing here and now is just that.  Perhaps the issue is how much one is able to do so?

On the other hand it is also said that "ignorance is bliss".  I think that both you and I, and perhaps it is in the nature of a lot of autistic people, struggle to ignore things.  Anyway I certainly don't want to encourage myself or others to behave ignorantly!

Hang in there and maybe get used to flying?

Given some of the things that people have identified as stressors, and thinking about some of my NT friends and family, I think it's not just ND's that have problems with things like tech, passwords and just how complicated previously simple things have become. All these things that are supposed to make life easier and don't, seem to make everyone go mad and feel like John Cleese in Fawlty Towers beeting his broken car with tree branch out of sheer frustration.