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Hate the saying"Were all a bit autistic"

Kenny_1622

Some people who arent austitic in work say "we're all a bit autistic arent we" and the only difference between you and me is you have a diagnosis. Really makes me angry as they think just because soSmirk things that annoy them makes them autistic. I asked them how they deal with these annoying things and the said they just forget about it. Things that might annoy them will create severe emotional sSmirkess and anxiety, effects me socially and in some cases cause me to self harm, I can't just forget about it. It's obvious that a lot people don't understand what its really like to be autistic or theSmirkjust don't care and try and fob it off as something silly to just get over it Smirk 

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  • Another issue why this can be annoying is that, if you are autistic and need support or have certain needs (time in solitude, for example), then one may interpret that we should just cope (because "everyone is a bit autistic", but most don't receive support, request sensory adjustments and so on..) 

    So I think that even if we share some aspects, and even if some people are a bit autistic, this is a disability for which there are specific assessments, tests, and specialists, and these determine whether you are or not in a meaningful sense.

  • in reply to Deleted User

    So many people can't cope with solitude, when they see another wanting some alone time, their first instinct is to rush in and ask you whats wrong and insist there must be something or you wouldn't be wanting to be alone and try and "organise" you. This makes everything so much worse for all concerned.

    Another one many can't cope with is muted lighting, the first thing they do is come in and switch all the lights on, 'what are you doing sitting here on your own in the dark?' is the accusation frequently thrown at us.

    Why do people who are afraid of the dark or rather the not brilliantly lit and being on your own ending up in the caring professions? I'm sure it's some sort of projection.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Yes; for me, it was quite hard to learn to put boundaries, and still is. Maybe it was the worst part.

    One of the reasons is that I am not spontaneous or "dynamic"; I am unsure how my mind works but the process is slow. I end up in muddy waters. Another reason is that people (sp relatives and friends) pressure-or-get-angry at you, just like TheCatWoman described (or how I interpreted it).

    When you force us to fit-in, it silently harms you, maybe forever (due to the number of times this happens, and the anxiety it produces.)

  • in reply to Deleted User

    I agree with the setting boundaries thing because most of them are neurotypical ones after all - especially when they are applied in order to exert some sort of unfairly justified pressure.  Maybe the deepest issue is that when we force ourselves to fit because society and individuals expect us to this can lead to a loss of sense of self - and that is the most damaging thing in my experience so far.

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  • in reply to Deleted User

    I agree with the setting boundaries thing because most of them are neurotypical ones after all - especially when they are applied in order to exert some sort of unfairly justified pressure.  Maybe the deepest issue is that when we force ourselves to fit because society and individuals expect us to this can lead to a loss of sense of self - and that is the most damaging thing in my experience so far.

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