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Mercury

I think that sexuality is no longer part of my life.  After a lifetime of exposure to explicit media and masturbation, the feeling has faded drastically.  I no longer feel any such libido in real life.  I see this as a good thing, my mind is free to pursue other more important things, and I'm too out of touch and unattractive anyway, but no hard feelings there.

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  • I’m not sure you can judge your own attractiveness unless you know you are not attracted to yourself? If it were possible?. A friend of mine doesn’t want kids, doesn’t want to live with his partner and doesn’t want her around all the time but still wants a relationship, I think he’s personally missing the give and take of a relationship and wishes for absolutes which do not exist. 

  • in reply to Autismman

    It's a thing now, people wanting a long term relationship but not wanting to live together, I think theres to much pressure to live together too quickly. When I got together with my ex after six months people were asking when we were going to move in together and when we said we weren't they asked if we were splitting up or if we were wating until we were married! Thats a hell of a lot pressure and expectation, we both liked our own space. I don't see it as wishing for absolutes or lacking the give and take, for me most relationship have had to much give and take, I give and they take, what yours is mine and whats mine stays mine. Yeah I'm cynical, or am I just experienced?

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    There’s a lot of social expectations for sure but again these are often other people’s ideals. I don’t think marriage is what it once was culturally in the UK any longer, it would have once been needed if you wanted to have kids otherwise you’d risk being socially cut off and shunned. The modern world will now ask you “if” you are getting married and not “when”. 

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    There’s a lot of social expectations for sure but again these are often other people’s ideals. I don’t think marriage is what it once was culturally in the UK any longer, it would have once been needed if you wanted to have kids otherwise you’d risk being socially cut off and shunned. The modern world will now ask you “if” you are getting married and not “when”. 

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I do love history, especially that of that era, a time before tvs, everyone huddled around the radio by an open fire. Life was obviously incredibly hard but family ties seemed stronger. 

  • in reply to Autismman

    When everyone around you is asking if you're going to move in together, split up or wait until you marry, thats a lot of pressure.

    My gr gr aunt lost her husband in WW1 she had no children, but adopted my nan and her brother after thier mother died and adopted another baby "over the wall", neighbours who could keep another mouth to feed. I think this was quite common for earlier generations.

    I wouldn't marry again, I don't see the point of it, I think, looking back on it that I only married the first time out fo curiosity and to see if it would change anything, it did for the worst.

    Marriage is an institution and I'm neither sick or criminal enough to live in an institution!