I drive but never that far, I also avoid roller coasters and fairground rides incase there’s a mechanical breakdown. To trust in the ride is to trust in the person in charge of maintenance for it…trains are not my thing either although I do wish I had more interests sometimes
If it helps, you could further break down each goal into small attainable steps that would go towards achieving the end goal. Successfully doing that can build confidence through achievement.
For example, for your first goal of getting off benefits, you have already set a smaller goal of finding work that you feel good about. That could be broken down further by thinking of how you might find the work, eg, go to job centre, search employment agencies, complete a course, make out a CV, call with potential employers.
it is important to only set goals that you have a realistic chance of attaining, otherwise failure can negatively affect your mental health.
Goals are not set in stone and you can always modify or change them.
I think it is important to tell yourself “well done!” When you achieve even a tiny step.
To clarify, childfree means having made the conscious decision NOT to have children. I also find trains boring but still safer than travelling on road.
Those are great goals, Mercury. I wish you the best in your pursuit.
One thing I've noticed about the life partner thing is that while shared interests are nice, shared values are probably more important. My NT wife and I share a few interests, but share a whole lot of values. For example, we both have this "justice and fairness" trait in abundance and we both value independence. We tend to agree about most things, but we accept each other's independence to make our own choices, even if we don't quite agree.
So, I think having the same value about the importance of children to you is very important, but if you meet someone nice who thinks that "trains are boring" (or whatever), don't let it put you off!
