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Fear of males anxiety sky high

Wolf

After what happened to me i now have a fear of males.

people think i will get over it i won't 

Now i panic  male support workers are a no go  male nurses are a no go same with police etc 

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  • If you've had a traumatic experience then it's very hard not to associate certain things with the trauma, in your case, men, you may rationally know its not right, but everything else is screaming at you and taking you back to the trauma and warning you that these people are a risk. It's a perfectly normal reaction to a trauma, nobody would tell you stick your fingers in a fire after you'd got badly burned, so why is this normal reaction seen as wrong? Objectively speaking it maybe mistaken as not all men are bad, but whilst recovering from trauma you need to be given the space to emotionally come to terms with things and where men fit into your world. If you feel safe with women and wish only to be treated by them, then that should be OK. It should also be OK for you to take a chaperone of your choice to any meeting that has to be with men for as long as you feel it's needed.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Well what support workers are telling me is that not all men are bad and you will over come the traumatic. I'm like to my self no I won't they already had pre warnings from me and my mum both saying  i don't want any males doing my support of the fear of been touched and now that has happened.   now there lying saying  they don't know about my preferences   

  • in reply to Wolf

    im so sorry about whats happening to you. Disappointed i like how the cat woman said it. a trigger is a trigger. phobias are generally irrational but that doesnt diminish their severity. they are real fears, real traumas. you have EVERY RIGHT to choose who you want to be seen by. for particular things i ask for female doctors.

    I in NO WAY am belittling your trigger, but if it helps, just know there are some real gentle amazing souls out there who are currently experiencing life as a male in this lifetime.

    best of luck with your journey. Slight smile Pray  

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  • in reply to Wolf

    im so sorry about whats happening to you. Disappointed i like how the cat woman said it. a trigger is a trigger. phobias are generally irrational but that doesnt diminish their severity. they are real fears, real traumas. you have EVERY RIGHT to choose who you want to be seen by. for particular things i ask for female doctors.

    I in NO WAY am belittling your trigger, but if it helps, just know there are some real gentle amazing souls out there who are currently experiencing life as a male in this lifetime.

    best of luck with your journey. Slight smile Pray  

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