Supporting my friend

Hi a very close friend of mine his dad has passed away. He couldn’t get through to his dad so went to the house to check. He walked in and found his dad this happened a few hours ago. We both have autism and I am struggling because I need to be there for him. As soon as I heard I phoned a taxi and went to his dad’s house to comfort him which he really appreciated. I am now over his flat and I’m seeing him tomorrow he insisted tomorrow still happens and I’m going to cook him a nice meal tomorrow. I know that right now he is in denial and there is going to be a rough time ahead. I need advice really what to do and am I doing enough? I’m struggling to be strong I broke down in tears in front of my friend got emotional phoned my dad because of the shock and my dad is absolutely fine thank god. Am I doing enough and how do I cope when things get tough? Most importantly how can I stay strong? 

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  • I am sorry you are in this situation.  It isn't one that there are rules for - for anyone - and I can well understand how you must be wondering what exactly you are meant to be doing right now. 

    I am going to put the link here for Urgent Help in case you or your friend need it.  It includes numbers to call should anyone need someone over this initial period of shock & grief.

    https://www.autism.org.uk/contact-us/urgent-help

    I am pleased you have each other for support, and please come back to this place as required.   Wishing you both well, take care. 

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  • I am sorry you are in this situation.  It isn't one that there are rules for - for anyone - and I can well understand how you must be wondering what exactly you are meant to be doing right now. 

    I am going to put the link here for Urgent Help in case you or your friend need it.  It includes numbers to call should anyone need someone over this initial period of shock & grief.

    https://www.autism.org.uk/contact-us/urgent-help

    I am pleased you have each other for support, and please come back to this place as required.   Wishing you both well, take care. 

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