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Work stress

AbsFord

I have ASD and am constantly feeling stressed at work, customers are rude, impatient and ignorant, sometimes I lie awake at night thinking about what's been said and what I've said, which in turn makes me even more stressed.

Sometimes I just want to just run away 

I would like to get another job, one that preferably doesn't involve customer interaction however I'm not sure that's even possible

Does anyone have any advice or perhaps even feel the same way?

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  • Most accessible entry level jobs involve customers of some sort so I think you are going to get a lot more benefit of changing yourself rather than running away from it.

    That may sound harsh but what I mean is to learn the skills to be able to control your stress levels when speaking with customers and be able to switch off at the end of the day to stop it overflowing into your free time.

    Doing this for an autist is quite a challenging process and I think it is best done with the help of an experienced psychotherapist who has a track record of helping autists.

    They can teach you techniques of compartmentalising things so you can switch off at the end of day and can help you with a range of techniques to cope better with handling the customer hassles (breathing, mindfulness and meditation spring to mind).

    It costs about £50 per session and you will probably need about a dozen so it isn't trivial - and it takes a lot of time to practice the exercises that you will be given. You have to want to learn and make the effort to get your moneys worth.

    The one big upside is that the skills you learn here will last you a lifetime and can be applied in all manner of situations to make your life much less stressful. When you think of it this way it is really good value.

    Plus you can teach some of the skills to other stressed colleagues if you are up for it - passing on the benefits of your experience to help others.

    Just a thought from someone who spent most of 32 years dealing with customers in some way.

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  • Most accessible entry level jobs involve customers of some sort so I think you are going to get a lot more benefit of changing yourself rather than running away from it.

    That may sound harsh but what I mean is to learn the skills to be able to control your stress levels when speaking with customers and be able to switch off at the end of the day to stop it overflowing into your free time.

    Doing this for an autist is quite a challenging process and I think it is best done with the help of an experienced psychotherapist who has a track record of helping autists.

    They can teach you techniques of compartmentalising things so you can switch off at the end of day and can help you with a range of techniques to cope better with handling the customer hassles (breathing, mindfulness and meditation spring to mind).

    It costs about £50 per session and you will probably need about a dozen so it isn't trivial - and it takes a lot of time to practice the exercises that you will be given. You have to want to learn and make the effort to get your moneys worth.

    The one big upside is that the skills you learn here will last you a lifetime and can be applied in all manner of situations to make your life much less stressful. When you think of it this way it is really good value.

    Plus you can teach some of the skills to other stressed colleagues if you are up for it - passing on the benefits of your experience to help others.

    Just a thought from someone who spent most of 32 years dealing with customers in some way.

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