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Employment (Buckland Review)

Tanya

It is a relief to finally get diagnosed but I am yet to see the benefits, especially in the employment market.  I find it challenging to find and retain work.  I've been bullied and exploited by management.  I been cast out (disposed of) for having the nerve to raise a grievance.  It has impacted my mental health.  I suffered from depression and anxiety but my experience in the workplace has made my condition worse.  Management and HR seem to always stick together to the point of gaslighting the vulnerable (cover up/protecting the organisation's reputation).  I am relieved and saddened to hear so many autistic people being treated this way.  I've heard that less than 10% of autistic people are in work.  I've recently written to my local MP for his response.  I'd like to chat to others who have had similar life experiences.  

 

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  • Oh, I can't tell you the trauma I suffered over fifteen years of employment. It destroyed me, my personality, my self worth, my identity. I lost EVERYTHING about myself from workplace bullying, burnout and breakdowns. For what? Money, house and a car. It's made me realise money DOES NOT make you happy, not if you have to endure that much suffering to get it. I really hope things change, because right now the thought of going back into employment terrifies me. 

  • in reply to Cloud44

    Thank you for your message.  I'm sorry to hear what happened to you.  Yes, it does make you terrified about re-entering the employment market.  I think bullying of autistic vulnerable adults in the workplace needs to be addressed whether in the media and/or politically.  I'm getting on my soap box. 

  • in reply to Tanya

    I agree, I've been saying the same. All my bullying was covert and mostly by management leaving me with nowhere to turn. I'm bored of hearing the same old government moans about people being out of work, they need to take a look at what actually goes on in the workplace, the NHS is the worst place I've ever worked, bullying if rife. Fix the internal problem before the external problem can be resolved. I can work, autism doesn't stop me working, bullying and breakdowns do. If you ever think of doing something, I'll be happy to help you, I've been thinking of writing something myself.

  • in reply to Iain

    I've tried, Iain, for fifteen years. No matter what game I play, personality I adopt, rules I break or adhere to, I always end up bullied and outcasted. Maybe I've just been unlucky with my work colleagues. I've always worked in entry level office roles, maybe if I had a specific career or didn't work with the same people for eight hours a day, five days a week, it would've been different.

  • in reply to Cloud44
    Cloud44 said:
    I'm bored of hearing the same old government moans about people being out of work, they need to take a look at what actually goes on in the workplace

    The problem is that this is never going to happen because it is down to human nature (NT that is) in a social environment with a power structure.

    It is the same the world over and I doubt it can be changed.

    What we can do about it is change how we respond to it - learn about the psychology involved so you get to know the rules and drivers behind it and arm yourself with techniques to respond effectively - there is a great article on doing this here:

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-flux/201904/5-strategies-deal-bully

    If you don't learn the rules and how to respond to the situations then you are allowing yourself to be a victim. Yes it would be great if everyone was nice but they are not - you know this so now that you have to tools at your disposal will you allow yourself to remain the victim?

    I'm not suggesting to become the aggressor yourself - there is a healthy middle path that should keep the heat off of you and allow you to just get on with doing the job for most of the time.

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  • in reply to Cloud44
    Cloud44 said:
    I'm bored of hearing the same old government moans about people being out of work, they need to take a look at what actually goes on in the workplace

    The problem is that this is never going to happen because it is down to human nature (NT that is) in a social environment with a power structure.

    It is the same the world over and I doubt it can be changed.

    What we can do about it is change how we respond to it - learn about the psychology involved so you get to know the rules and drivers behind it and arm yourself with techniques to respond effectively - there is a great article on doing this here:

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-flux/201904/5-strategies-deal-bully

    If you don't learn the rules and how to respond to the situations then you are allowing yourself to be a victim. Yes it would be great if everyone was nice but they are not - you know this so now that you have to tools at your disposal will you allow yourself to remain the victim?

    I'm not suggesting to become the aggressor yourself - there is a healthy middle path that should keep the heat off of you and allow you to just get on with doing the job for most of the time.

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  • in reply to Iain

    I've tried, Iain, for fifteen years. No matter what game I play, personality I adopt, rules I break or adhere to, I always end up bullied and outcasted. Maybe I've just been unlucky with my work colleagues. I've always worked in entry level office roles, maybe if I had a specific career or didn't work with the same people for eight hours a day, five days a week, it would've been different.