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Getting rejected after Interviews

TrainyMcTrainFace

So recently I had an interview (My 3rd one) - and the same thing happened in the last interview where I just completely freeze up, Even If i fully comprehend the question and understand how I need to answer it I just lock up and I cannot think in any way, shape or form and of course I start getting uncomfortable and it gets to a point where I've lost it and I feel like im wasting my own time and interviewers time. Every time I just feel defeated and can't tell whether my disability is holding me back or whether I should be requesting adjustments to allow me to simply be myself and show the company I am suitable for the role

Now I'm awaiting feedback as the company have gladly offered to provide it and once I receive it I may ask the company if there would be any adjustments they would be willing to make in the future or possibly reconsider and allow me to show my abilities or communicate my answers differently so that I would be comfortable. 

Im 50/50 about disclosing my Autism as some close people say yes, some say no depending on the circumstances but I feel like the format of the interview just isn't a fit way to make myself comfortable to be able to provide the interviewers with answers that they are looking for. 

I did plenty of research into the role and the company and they asked all the questions that I was expecting apart from one although I feel as they threw that one in as a test to see if anyone could actually answer it. I memorised all my answers in the format that was recommended and felt like I tried my best in the style that is often expected

What adjustments could I ask for that would benefit myself that would allow myself to show my abilities and allow me to show the interviewers in a different way and  has anyone requested adjustments before and how it allowed them to feel more comfortable

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  • I can totally relate to you.   I used to physically shake at Interviews.  I had very good qualifications In IT and I would apply for computer network engineering jobs.  I used to have people Interviewing me who were less qualified as me.  I used to fully prepare for days before with mock interviews.  I would have about 100 pre prepared answers ready to any question they may ask like " Where would you like to be in 10 years time"  to which i would reply" I would like to be sitting where you are"  Blah Blah......No matter what i did  i always messed up.  I was so qualified it wasn't difficult for me to get Interviews once i sent my Cv off for a Job.  I would do about 3 Interviews a week, I thought more i did better i would become at it. but alas it never happened,  i read self help books on keeping calm etc. nothing worked, I never got the my dream job, and i ended up giving up and having some dead end job for years,  When i went to an Interview for a job i didn't want, i never used to shake lol,   that was over 20 years ago I am fortunate I don't need to work anymore, The thing is, 20 years ago i didn't know i was autistic , i put it down to having bad nerves , anxiety/depression,   If i could go back in time I would come clean and mention in the Interview that I was Autistic and highlight the plus points of them employing an autistic person.  I would be wary of putting that i am autistic in my Cv as it might of worked against me.  I think you would be best disclosing it at the Interview.   I would personally give it a try. you have nothing to lose and everything to gain

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  • I can totally relate to you.   I used to physically shake at Interviews.  I had very good qualifications In IT and I would apply for computer network engineering jobs.  I used to have people Interviewing me who were less qualified as me.  I used to fully prepare for days before with mock interviews.  I would have about 100 pre prepared answers ready to any question they may ask like " Where would you like to be in 10 years time"  to which i would reply" I would like to be sitting where you are"  Blah Blah......No matter what i did  i always messed up.  I was so qualified it wasn't difficult for me to get Interviews once i sent my Cv off for a Job.  I would do about 3 Interviews a week, I thought more i did better i would become at it. but alas it never happened,  i read self help books on keeping calm etc. nothing worked, I never got the my dream job, and i ended up giving up and having some dead end job for years,  When i went to an Interview for a job i didn't want, i never used to shake lol,   that was over 20 years ago I am fortunate I don't need to work anymore, The thing is, 20 years ago i didn't know i was autistic , i put it down to having bad nerves , anxiety/depression,   If i could go back in time I would come clean and mention in the Interview that I was Autistic and highlight the plus points of them employing an autistic person.  I would be wary of putting that i am autistic in my Cv as it might of worked against me.  I think you would be best disclosing it at the Interview.   I would personally give it a try. you have nothing to lose and everything to gain

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