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Dani

I'm at a point at the moment where I'm really stuck with how to word certain things. I struggle to communicate effectively (I.e

Rush talk, tripping over words, words coming out in a bumbling mess etc!)

I just feel like i need to have some kind of wording readily available for moments like these without just blurting out 'I'm autistic and I struggle to speak sometimes'

It's that weird look people give me that I've had my whole life. It's like a moment that their face changes and I can feel that they think I'm a bit odd.

And also, as my child has both conditions too, I'm struggling to navigate those words again if he's having any kind of outburst i.e

kids birthday parties. It's knowing what to say to other mums too when a situation like that arises

  • Hello,

    I have speech issues and had therapy to help with this by breathing exercises. I also wear a sunflower lanyard and alert card when out so people are aware and it does work. In therapy, I was advised to have a sales pitch when speaking to new people in order to explain that I have a speech impediment and to advise me if they failed to understand something I have said.    

  • If you find that you or your child are being incorrectly judged by others over the word 'autism', then just leave it out. As an alternative just say the you or your child. "Have/has a condition that sometimes interferes with the ability to process speech". You could have something similar written on a small card that you can carry with you for more difficult situations. I carry an autism alert card because of selective mutism in my past and, ironically, just having that option available lowers my anxiety and usually enables me to speak fluently.

  • Hello Dani,

    Thank you for your post and I am sorry to hear about your worries. I wonder whether you may find the following advice and guidance pages a useful starting point for both you and your child with regards to communication. 

    We have a page here about making friends. About half way down the page there is a section about communicating with new people and suggested subjects to talk about.  

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/family-life-and-relationships/making-friends/autistic-adults

    We also have a dedicated section all about communication and communication tools which may be useful and help you and your child.

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/communication/communication-tools

    I really hope you find something useful in the above pages. Our advice and guidance has a search tool so please feel free to search for more specific subjects if you require more information. 

    With best wishes, 

    Anna Mod