Allow me to put on my cynical hat. Most human beings are shallow and are atracted to shallow atributes in a partner, at least in the first instance. No matter how unatractive you are or how weird you come off as you would find some women atracted to you if you had tons of money or the body of a althleet / body builder. If you were the leader of a popular rock band. I'm not saying it's not unfair but maybe you should work on improving those shallow atributes that atract women to the point where it compensates for any 'weird vibes' you give off.
There is a 3rd option, fake it. If they come for something shallow maybe they will stay for the personality. There is for instance no harm in giving the impresion you have a lot mone money than you have so long as you don't outright lie (or bankrupt yourself). No harm on using a bit of makeup to hide your crows feet or a suport gerdal to hold in your waist. Spray on hair if it's thining. etc
Yes, to be fair that's true. You'd never know unless you saw me getting out of the car.
Maybe I should try to figure out how to dress myself a bit more tastefully.
Yes but I'd wager you don't wear your bank balence on your wrist. People who are good at making money are often quite frugal. Its the image of wealth some people are atracted to. If not consciesly then subconsciously. If you are with a woman who wouldn't date you after getting to know you if she found out you were poor you really don't want her. But again putting my cynical hat on, human beings are shallow instinct driven creatures, if appealing to a womans subconscious desire for a wealthy partner can gain her atention in the initial stages I don't see the harm.
I have to say - I have the job, the money, even the fancy car, but I'm still invisible, so financial status alone isn't everything (this may also say something about certain stereotypes about what women 'really' want).
Well, I'm sorry, but background acting and music are the only careers I'm interested in, and I couldn't work everyday in a 9-5 job that I hate, I'd be miserable. I need my passions and hobbies, they're my therapy and help me function. And as I said, the amount of work I've had in the past couple of years compared to before has quadrupled, and that, along with my regular job, is now making me a decent enough amount of money, maybe not a millionaire, but enough to feed me and keep a roof over my head, which is what's most important, and I don't recall the last time I had to borrow money from anyone, plus I'm really careful with my finances (most likely another ASD trait)
Well, I'm sorry, but background acting and music are the only careers I'm interested in, and I couldn't work everyday in a 9-5 job that I hate, I'd be miserable. I need my passions and hobbies, they're my therapy and help me function. And as I said, the amount of work I've had in the past couple of years compared to before has quadrupled, and that, along with my regular job, is now making me a decent enough amount of money, maybe not a millionaire, but enough to feed me and keep a roof over my head, which is what's most important, and I don't recall the last time I had to borrow money from anyone, plus I'm really careful with my finances (most likely another ASD trait)