Allow me to put on my cynical hat. Most human beings are shallow and are atracted to shallow atributes in a partner, at least in the first instance. No matter how unatractive you are or how weird you come off as you would find some women atracted to you if you had tons of money or the body of a althleet / body builder. If you were the leader of a popular rock band. I'm not saying it's not unfair but maybe you should work on improving those shallow atributes that atract women to the point where it compensates for any 'weird vibes' you give off.
Well, I'm trying, I've started going to the gym, getting more background acting jobs etc but to be honest I'm long past the point of getting my hopes up
There is a 3rd option, fake it. If they come for something shallow maybe they will stay for the personality. There is for instance no harm in giving the impresion you have a lot mone money than you have so long as you don't outright lie (or bankrupt yourself). No harm on using a bit of makeup to hide your crows feet or a suport gerdal to hold in your waist. Spray on hair if it's thining. etc
