Does it matter? Not everyone needs to date or be in a relationship.
There's a whole neurotypical/heteronormative/programmed way of thinking that we are somehow unfulfilled unless we have XYZ. We don't have to date, we don't have to have a partner, marry, have kids or anything else. It's fine to be who you are (as long as you're not hurting anyone else imo).
PS. The typo in Anonymous is driving me nuts.
What did I do to deserve this?
I'm not sure what you mean as this can read 2 ways - one is "why pick on me" and the other is "thanks for the advice".
If you want an answer then let me know but I'll leave you in peace otherwise.
I would recommend getting a trained therapist with experience of dealing with autistic clients. It isn't cheap (starting at about £50/hr) but the benefits were so worth it for me.
In some way the fact you have to pay for it makes you take it more seriously and work harder at it so the results are better.
It's been 20 years since I left school, but this is still very much with me
Have you tried therapy? As in a psychologist?
I found it a game changer for me as it helped process a lot of the childhool traumas (kidnapping and public beatings) that I had never really dealt with.
A therapist well versed in autism is also a great way to find techniques to deal with issues that you struggle with. Perhaps they could help you with preparing for dating more effectively, to improve whatever skills you need for this and teach you techniques to manage anxiety etc.
Well, I've always known I was different from everyone else, and no matter how hard I tried to fit in at school, I just couldn't do it. I was the easiest in my group of friends to pick on and make fun of, and they even said so. But unfortunately, unlike you, I didn't have the looks to compensate for it.
It's been 20 years since I left school, but this is still very much with me
Well, I've always known I was different from everyone else, and no matter how hard I tried to fit in at school, I just couldn't do it. I was the easiest in my group of friends to pick on and make fun of, and they even said so. But unfortunately, unlike you, I didn't have the looks to compensate for it.
It's been 20 years since I left school, but this is still very much with me
What did I do to deserve this?
I'm not sure what you mean as this can read 2 ways - one is "why pick on me" and the other is "thanks for the advice".
If you want an answer then let me know but I'll leave you in peace otherwise.
I would recommend getting a trained therapist with experience of dealing with autistic clients. It isn't cheap (starting at about £50/hr) but the benefits were so worth it for me.
In some way the fact you have to pay for it makes you take it more seriously and work harder at it so the results are better.
It's been 20 years since I left school, but this is still very much with me
Have you tried therapy? As in a psychologist?
I found it a game changer for me as it helped process a lot of the childhool traumas (kidnapping and public beatings) that I had never really dealt with.
A therapist well versed in autism is also a great way to find techniques to deal with issues that you struggle with. Perhaps they could help you with preparing for dating more effectively, to improve whatever skills you need for this and teach you techniques to manage anxiety etc.
