What do your days consist of?

Violetfred said:

Being around people is no substitute for socialising with them. When you cant do the latter, you have to make do with the former.

Agreed.....whether you want to socialise or not, I still reckon its pretty important to stay regularly around a few other humans.....I think it keeps us balanced, whether we like it or not?

It's nice not to feel so alone in that. I didn't need to work as many hours as I did, but it covered up the fact that all I had to go home to, was an empty house and no social life. Being around people is no substitute for socialising with them. When you cant do the latter, you have to make do with the former.

Good luck on your journey.

I’ve been at the same company for 25 years and also joined at 28 years old and can very much identify with your comment about work being a band aid.

I hope that redundancy may actually be a huge opportunity for you to build a better life. 

After 24 years working for the same company, I have been made redundant. Needless to say the change in routine is freaking me out. When I started at 28 yo I was masking to the extreme, gradually I got into a position where I could work up to 75 hours a week and I was a one man department. I was around people, but I could escape to my own part of the factory when I wanted. It was perfect. Now I realise that work was a band-aid. Now I see how empty my life is. Now it's another chapter doing, I don't know what.

Be safe

Waking up, going on my phone (usually scrolling through twitter, instagram, tiktok and facebook) before quickly getting out of bed, putting my clothes on and going out the door. I have to get a bus to go to work, which means I have to share a bus with pupils at the school I work with. That can be overwhelming sometimes. I listen to music and scroll on my way to work. Get to work, sort my chromebook out and check emails. Go about my morning before having some food at 10:10. Then continue my day. Lunch at 12:35 when I just chill on my phone. I get picked up roughly 4:15-4:30pm. Sometimes eat out, usually a local chippy in the town I work in. Come home, get ready. Then go out to a family friend's house against my will. Then come home later, scroll on devices before sleeping. Repeat another 4 times.

Weekend is just mainly a lot of scrolling. Sunday morning is church and food shop.

Internet and more internet with brief breaks for  eating,bodily functions, watching a bit of TV, and tasks that need doing.

This sums me up too - “I exist and float about”  

I get up when Fearn bounces on me, feed her and let her out, make coffee and read the newspaper and come on here. Then it's dog walks, shopping if needed, gardening when possible, reading a non fiction book when I have one worth reading, if not I stay with fiction, cooking, watching tv and more reading.

Im having a hard time adjusting to being retired. I was a teacher for 32 years and my life revolved around my job. After the students became unduly challenging because of their behavior, I quit my job. 

1) I have not put in my retirement papers for my pension. I've been sitting on the paperwork for about 1 and 1/2 months. 

2) I've only been out of my home once over the last 1 and 1/2 months to go grocery shopping. Since I am by nature a reclusive introvert, I have found reasons to not leave my own. Since I was a Culinary Arts instructor, I have a freezer and 2nd refrigerator in the garage along with a wall lined with shelving for canned food and dried goods. After running out of sodas, I switched to water flavored with zero sugar fruit drink mixes. Afer running out of those, I have switched to ice water. Having long since run out of fresh vegetables, I am cooking with frozen or canned vegetables. While I have a case of frozen hamburger meat, I'm down to my last package of frozen chicken thighs. I'm out of beef and pork roasts. I'm out of sausages and potates, though  have plenty of rice along with canned and dried beans. I have sufficient food supplies to live on for at least another two months albeit on an increasingly restrictive diet. 

Instead of teaching, I spend my days writing. I have a blog and am working on a fanstasy novel. I also read books on my tablet, play strategy games on my desktop, and watch movies on YouTube and Amazon prime. 

For myself, a typical week is as follows:

Monday to Friday: Work 8am to 5pm

Saturday: 8am to 1pm, and the following Saturday I have off. Alternating.

Sunday: Day Off

After work, I pick up the wife and daughter and we either go home or go to the supermarket varying on circumstances. When we do get home, I get the dinner done whilst my wife tidies up and gets things sorted for my daughters bedtime. After dinner and bath night, varying on what day it is, Zoey is put to bed routinely between 7:00pm and 7:30pm

Mt wife and I enjoy time to ourselves, whether she's catching up with soaps, housework or resting. And I like to head up to the bedroom and rest in the dark for a while to enjoy the peace and quiet, before coming downstairs to either put a strategy or racing game on the computer, before we head up to bed. 

I work half days on Saturday when it is my teams turn, to which I perform the role of dispatcher. At 1pm, I head home to chill out in bed and enjoy the peace whilst watching a gaming playlist to doze off to.

Sundays, my wife is at work, and me and my daughter have a day if fun, whether it's going over to my mums or just sitting in for the day, playing games, watching Paw Patrol, I'm easy. 

The following week is usually the same, but this Saturday coming is my day off, to which me and my wife sleep in till about 9:00am, then we head off for a coffee before I drop her at her mums with Zoey. I head home to enjoy my afternoon to do as I wish :) 

I exist and float about ^-^

When my brain has an idea I kick in to action until energy runs out.

Some days I spend thinking rather than doing

It all depends on how mentally drained I am. Sometimes my head is noisy with traffic of thoughts and I can't do anything until it's quiet again.

No day is the same

"Floaty otherness" interspersed with occasional "fierce focus and tireless action."

I get out of bed, sit in my bedroom chair, wake up my PC, and then roughly 16 hours later, flop back into bed. Food and bathroom use thrown in there occassionally. I want to get more out of life, but every single task feels monumentous. If I have to walk the family dog, I don't have the mental energy to prepare a meal. If I have to do a load of laundry and take out the trash, I pick one for today and one for tomorrow. I'm overweight, and every time I try to get my health on track, my dad ridicules me, so it's hard to keep up a healthier living standard. Still trying at it though, cos giving up makes me the reason I fail.

It's been a good many years since I last had what one might consider to be an average day, but unless I'm feeling unwell, it always starts with a much-needed and much-loved mug of coffee. What happens after that can vary from day-to-day. There is no routine as such, as my day tends to be dictated by how I am feeling physically and mentally.

The lack of a rigid routine doesn't bother me, but I can find it frustrating when I lack the spoons to do what I want or need to do.

I generally don't have an average day. Work days offer some structure, the rest is seat of the pants.

Breakfast, shower, do laundry if required, study or reading, lunch, gaming, cook & eat dinner, watch tv, more gaming or reading, bed

Groceries delivery once a week, and I usually get out for a walk to the shops on two other days. Once a month I meet up for lunch with a couple of friends.

(In case you are wondering why I didn't put housework in there, cleaning is done by my partner!)

Three days a week I work in the mornings, in the afternoons I go to walk my mum's dog while she is at work. The other two days I work morning and afternoon. In the evenings I come home and have a cup of tea with my neighbour, then we either cook dinner together or go cook something ourselves. We watch gardeners world while eating, and then maybe a drama if we are up for it. Lately I have been watching the Bake Off with my lodger. I might have a cup of decaf tea and check my social media or watch TV or listen to a podcast before bed. I don't get to sleep very easily so I put off going to bed as it's horrible to lie tossing and turning and checking the time and then just get to sleep for an hour or so before my alarm goes off.

Most days I sleep a lot, sporadically.  I have too much screen time most evenings.  When my dog wants out he jumps all over me to wake me up.  We go outside for a few minutes then I sleep off and on in the living room.  Sometimes my partner makes coffee and breakfast.  If not I usually don't eat.  In evenings I try to get out with others, ND or not.  I try to make friends with ND folks.  I like to talk but not small talk and I encourage others to talk about their lives and the things that bother them.  Not taking all the talk time helps me.

I work full time which can be challenging at times. On my time away from work I walk my dogs, watch shows/movies and try and wind down and chill.

I only drink once a week and not on a day before work even though I didn't have many.

I try to not mix with others as I find it stressful and tiring.