Living alone, unemployed, no friends, minimal hobbies

Hi guys,

I'm proud of myself for managing to live by myself, though I didn't have a choice to be honest. Please don't ask why it is upsetting.for me. But it's lonely a lot. I'm quite introverted and have little hobbies. I have no friends at all, and only ever had acquaintances but with time people just become unkind or decide not to reply to messages. I'm on Universal Credit and do not want to go to university for various personal reasons. 

I wish I did have friends, but I've never met the right people. Plus being in a new area of London compared to where I grew up has caused me great stress. Adjusting to being in a different part of London has been so stressful. I often wish I had a friend that could help me with fashion sense, styling and organising the studio flat. It's been 5 months of being here and I'm still unsettled. I'm a stay at home kind of person, and this is fine, it's just hard when I am.not able to socialise really. I can talk a lot but then I can also be quiet. I've tried group and things but I never really enjoy them. And I never find a friend after going to sessions like that. Plus, I tend to prefer things in the local area as I dislike travel so that is another thing. I wish I had someone that could help me out a little you know. A friend.

3 or 4 friends would be fine if I had them. But they don't exist  I can only dream that I'll meet other kind people. I like to read fiction and watch kdramas, listen to kpop. And those are my limited interests. But I've began to lose interest in a lot of things because I'm still not settled here. I don't like being in a different area of London than my.hometown and its not easy anyway with the housing crisis. I would like to live with someone though, but where I'm at doesn't allow having another person. I wish I could move out to live with someone similar to me.

Is there someone out there that can be like a friend to me?

  • Dear NAS96003,

    Thank you for posting to the online community and sharing your experience. There are lots of online community members that enjoy chatting on the forum and we hope you make friends on here! 

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  • There's lots of people here looking to make friends. I'm one of them. Might not be the local IRL kind of people you're hoping for, but any form of positive social contact is better than none.