Published on 12, July, 2020
Dear All,
All my life i would say above applies.I have some good friends although only one now.I like going for a coffee reading watching tv and my special interests.
I am kind and compassionate.Yet I move to the South West and I have had so much bother and been made out to be some low life criminal.
How can i stop non autistic and non mentally ill people making out what I am not and not allowing me to be boring yet eccentric.
Help Please
your thoughts
move was for a less stressful way of life that worked out well! Moving back would be lovely but property very expensive there should never have moved !
Why did you move in the first place? why not move back to where you felt comfortable?
(Pm offer in case you were uncomfortable talking to the Gen pop.)
I like that that is a superb idea.I may even just walk from my house and leave my phone here.what happens with me i cannot help myself if my phone is with me i look and the sure enough there is a horrible email break ruined it happens so often
To achieve a "boring" (yet beneficial) day;
I have been known to put my mobile on airplane mode, make a packed lunch, fill a thermos flask of hot water for a mug of instant coffee, fill my water bottle, put everything into my backpack / rucksack.
Check the weather forecast and take appropriate clothing for the weather.
I travel somewhere nearby but beyond my home community (maximum 1 hour journey) and enjoy my picnic somewhere outdoors - such as a park in the chosen "outdoor day" location.
The chances are: that people do not know anything about you in your selected "day trip picnic" and a walk exploring the location - pretty well anonymously.
I take my mobile with me in case I need something - but it is on airplane mode unless I need something (therefore, I am not interrupted by email notifications and random unexpected calls / text messages arriving while I am giving myself the mini brain holiday (picnic and walk about).
Maybe you could adapt the idea to something similar (but then tailored to your own interests).
It need not be something you do particularly frequently - just pick a day, plan a bit, budget for it, put a reminder in your calendar and give yourself something to look forward towards.
that is a good idea but the issue is I actually like people generally and cafes and restaurants.Perhaps the people that annoy should move to the country or maybe the artic circle
Cat Loving Man said:How can i stop non autistic and non mentally ill people making out what I am not and not allowing me to be boring yet eccentric.
Could you move to the countryside? Less neighbours to be a pain in the neck.
Yes i rang my crisis line last night and they gave one gem of advice .They said just one day soon decide this is your boring chill out day and just ignore everything phone emails post.I may do this Saturday.
Another good bit of advice I was following then stopped was to not look at emails in a cafe if i was chilling.It is murphys law whenI relax the nasty emails arrive.I am getting better at doing that.
How r u do you achieve the boring day when nothing happens and you are stress free and what do you do on those days
Well when life was good I could get up chill out have leisurely breakfast go out for coffee walk.Maybe have a job enjoy tv etc.Now because of my worst nightmare coming to fruition of bullying of me court x 2 for criminal and council.I promise I have done nothing wrong.
Re PM I prefer just doping chat like this it is not personal do not pm anyone yet maybe in future
Can you give specifics? you can PM if you like.
This is difficult. But it can be done. Bare with me, It won't be easy and you wont feel confident at first. And it wont feel good, and you wont feel good about your situation, but with the neccessery steps. This can be accomplished.