Published on 12, July, 2020
Does anyone here struggle to understand how they feel?
I'm recently diagnosed, and since knowing that I'm autistic, I feel as though the symptoms of it are much clearer to me now. I know that I'm feeling either bad or good, but I can't necessarily pin point the reason why or the specific emotion attached to. Its as though I've gone through so many difficult times (not trauma or a specific bad event, just bad memories) that everything seems to trigger some emotions which are negative. It's extremely frustrating because it puts my day off massively, and no one can comfort me because I either don't tell them, or I can't even tell them what's wrong.
This is a terrible chart!! LOL - AND I'm happy you posted this.
Critical and Skeptical are Powerful forces of reasoning one can tap into, not Mad. Bewildered isn't a fear response, Pensive is!!!
It's a mess! Haha
"insecure" is not a feeling but a state with little grounding and an insight into what we cannot trust.
EDIT: Jealousy is often used incorrectly. Envy is what I feel when someone has something I want. Jealousy is what I feel when it involves someone I've invested in (regardless of whether or not I have a right or invitation to a relationship with them).
They're all feelings.
You can call them what you like, whatever makes you feel more comfortable.
To feel insecure, is exactly that, a feeling.
As mentioned, I'm not 'angry' at you for posting this chart. Nor am I blaming you for the chart. I made a strong point of saying I was happy you posted it - knowledge is power. If this is out there, no wonder there's miscommunication. Just to clarify.
You do know saying "whatever makes you feel more comfortable" is a domineering and dismissive tactic. You also probably know autistics are more likely to go through life being misrepresented for perfectly natural human engagement and often shut down, dismissed or gaslit. So these misperceptions matter.
The point I was making is how they're defined, what a thing is associated with in the centre. imagine casually wanting to discuss an article "I'm a bit skeptical about that new policy" and the other attaching the label of Anger to you for this and shutting you down for having an opinion. "No negativity today" in response to simply wishing to engage in an article.
There is a difference between a Verb and a Noun. When something gives us cause for concern or expanding our perception on a thing, it might trigger a feeling of unease, apprehensiveness or pensiveness - something is out of balance, which then informs our thinking and perceptions helping us engage in the activity of critical evaluation. You won't feel skeptical but apprehensive. Skepticism is the shape that feeling might take in order to problem-solve.
I'm not excited about using terms like these in vague ways because of the affect it can have. We currently live in social world where far too many are performing thoughtless actions which have everything from small to grave consequence. If one dismisses an insecurity because it is 'just a feeling' there is a missed opportunity to better understand what is actually impacting a sense of unstable ground.