Published on 12, July, 2020
Does anyone else feel like this? It’s so hard to regulate emotions after someone screamed at me or I had a misunderstanding and feel like a total idiot and loser for not understanding or asking questions. Strong light, sounds of scanners, people talking and laughing loud, strollers being moved on the floor and many other sounds that usually don’t make me feel disregulated today made me crazy and crying I had to hide so no one sees me crying. It was so hard to calm down and soothe myself. I pressed my forehead with my hands and sat for few minutes. This is why I feel like a child in an adult body. Terribly embarrassing. I’m high functioning- I’m a child functioning in adult world and trying to cope. Does anyone have any thoughts, advice, experience, stories to share, I’ll be happy.
I'm in my mid 20s. There's some parts where I feel grown up, but so many things I can't do. I can drive, but I can't cook. I can't iron my own clothes or do shoelaces.
A lot of that is because I'm too ashamed to ask and if I do ask, I get judged or dismissed.
I'm terrible at regulating my emotions if someone said something to upset me. I turn into someone who wants to scream or throw something.
Hi HMO
You've achieved something great and very grown up by learning to drive - I have never got my licence, and I'm in my 60s. Doesn't bother me though, I remind myself how much money I'm saving!
The thing is, society decides what "grown ups" should have achieved or be able to do, but that's no measure of individual happiness.The things you're worried that you can't do either aren't important, or don't need to be difficult.
Preparing a meal can be quite simple - things like a jacket potato cooked in a microwave, topped with tuna or cheese, or a pasta sauce with a pack of quorn mince thrown in, served with pasta or garlic bread, or burgers cooked in a tray in the oven for 25 minutes then served in buns with a salad. Nearly all food items sold today have instructions how to cook or prepare them, and there are lots of easy meal ideas on the internet. You.just need to.practice how to make something edible, you're not competing on Masterchef.
Ironing is a waste of time - time that could be.used for doing something much more interesting. I stopped it years ago. If you buy clothes in man made or mixed fabrics that dont crease badly, then hang them on hangers to dry, you never need to iron.
And tying shoelaces?? Just buy trainers with velcro, or slip ons - Laces only keep coming untied and are a trip hazard anyway!
I can microwave stuff but using a cooker or an oven is a no-no. I can make a sandwich etc. I never really have taken it seriously though.
Admittedly my mum doesn't do much in the way of ironing our clothes either. And I don't wear shoes with shoelaces as a rule!
But I think it's more of an internal thing of "I'm not grown up enough".
Life isn't to be taken seriously - it's to be enjoyed as much as possible!
You can cook lots of stuff in the microwave though, or heat up ready cooked chilled foods like sausage rolls, chicken legs, etc. And there are lots of good ready meals in Iceland - their "takeaway" curries and cheap lasagnes are very tasty.I
I don't believe anybody really "grows up". I think it's a mask - people are faking it, either because they want others to listen to and.follow their ideas, or because they're scared of not being taken seriously if they act like the child they still are in their mind.