Published on 12, July, 2020
Does anyone else feel like this? It’s so hard to regulate emotions after someone screamed at me or I had a misunderstanding and feel like a total idiot and loser for not understanding or asking questions. Strong light, sounds of scanners, people talking and laughing loud, strollers being moved on the floor and many other sounds that usually don’t make me feel disregulated today made me crazy and crying I had to hide so no one sees me crying. It was so hard to calm down and soothe myself. I pressed my forehead with my hands and sat for few minutes. This is why I feel like a child in an adult body. Terribly embarrassing. I’m high functioning- I’m a child functioning in adult world and trying to cope. Does anyone have any thoughts, advice, experience, stories to share, I’ll be happy.
I'm in my mid 20s. There's some parts where I feel grown up, but so many things I can't do. I can drive, but I can't cook. I can't iron my own clothes or do shoelaces.
A lot of that is because I'm too ashamed to ask and if I do ask, I get judged or dismissed.
I'm terrible at regulating my emotions if someone said something to upset me. I turn into someone who wants to scream or throw something.
Hi HMO
You've achieved something great and very grown up by learning to drive - I have never got my licence, and I'm in my 60s. Doesn't bother me though, I remind myself how much money I'm saving!
The thing is, society decides what "grown ups" should have achieved or be able to do, but that's no measure of individual happiness.The things you're worried that you can't do either aren't important, or don't need to be difficult.
Preparing a meal can be quite simple - things like a jacket potato cooked in a microwave, topped with tuna or cheese, or a pasta sauce with a pack of quorn mince thrown in, served with pasta or garlic bread, or burgers cooked in a tray in the oven for 25 minutes then served in buns with a salad. Nearly all food items sold today have instructions how to cook or prepare them, and there are lots of easy meal ideas on the internet. You.just need to.practice how to make something edible, you're not competing on Masterchef.
Ironing is a waste of time - time that could be.used for doing something much more interesting. I stopped it years ago. If you buy clothes in man made or mixed fabrics that dont crease badly, then hang them on hangers to dry, you never need to iron.
And tying shoelaces?? Just buy trainers with velcro, or slip ons - Laces only keep coming untied and are a trip hazard anyway!
For me the exact opposite- I can cook, but driving overwhelms me I’m sure that one stressful situation would drive me to meltdown.
Yes, I start crying like a little girl if someone shouts. This is well known to me from my past, but now after long break I have tough time at work. It’s so hard to regulate. Plus today morning (before my mistake and misunderstanding) I was just sitting staring out the window and one colleague approached me, touched me, looked me in the eyes and asked “why are you so sad?”. I felt treated by her like a child. I hate it! I answered everything is fine and left asap. And there is also a lot of miscommunication: “move it” - “ok, where I should move it?” - “just move it, don’t be so complicated!”. Am I complicated because I ask the person where the item should be moved/taken? It turned out he wanted me to move it a meter left. Do he could say it. Instead of being upset that I don’t read his mind.