Published on 12, July, 2020
I was in a long term relationship and I made it clear from the start that I was seeking an autism diagnosis, and my partner was totally chill with that. But as soon as I was diagnosed he treated me differently. I tired to talk to him about how I face work place discrimination due to my disability, and that autistic people were less likely to be employed etc., but he wouldn't listen o me and didn't care. He even said "why would people hire autistic people if they won't even be good at their job?", which was really hurtful. I think the worst thing for him was just me being anxious whilst in public. I was really struggling because I was newly diagnosed and we were in a really busy part of London, and so I did start crying from stress. I think he just felt embarrassed by me.
A couple days later he broke up with me, citing that I am too emotional, needy, and dependent on him. When I asked him if it was specifically the autism, he didn't answer me, so I can assume that's a yes. It has been 2 months since then and I'm still devastated as to why he treated me like this. I am not sure how to move forward in my life or have a relationship again knowing that my partner could end up heavily disliking me because I'm autistic. It hurts to know that who I am is so terrible that my ex just felt out of love with me. Pls advise me. :)
NAS93341 said: He even said "why would people hire autistic people if they won't even be good at their job?"
actually theres another way that can be perceived.... its complimentary.... hes saying, if they took you on, and keep you on, then you are good at your job.... they wouldnt continue to be hiring you if you was bad at your job... why would they keep you on the payroll if you was bad at your job? ... kinda like that, so in a way hes saying to chill, if your employed then your clearly good enough to keep your job as if you wasnt good enough for the job they wouldnt continue to hire you.