Published on 12, July, 2020
When I was a child I had formed a strong emotional attachment to my grandmother. If she left me to go to the store I would have a fit the entire time until she came back and when she died when I was 10 it was the end of the world for me. I can’t go to her grave because I lose my mind and every fiber of my being just wants to lay there and die just to be with her again. Since then I have had only one attachment to someone that is just as strong and because there’s not a lot about it and it’s only a “stereotype” of Autistic children, it’s hard for the neurotypical who I have the bond with to see how much trust that means that I have for them and understand it, even now I fear saying more about it because I don’t want it to get misunderstood and I just don’t know why these emotional attachment bonds aren’t discussed and only Autistic children are seen with these bonds and no one has an issue with it but if it’s an adult who’s Autistic that has the same thing it’s like no one wants to be understanding about it at all. I just don’t understand why Autistic adults having this isn’t discussed much?
I'm sure it is talked about, within wider topics.
E.g. one of the recent ones I've had to deal with is my therapist. Transference is a thing within the therapy sphere, and it almost definitely happens to neurotypical people as well.
I struggle with attachment with my therapist as well. It's a difficult one because I know she's just a therapist but at the same time I talk to her so much, open up about my deepest thoughts and I feel connected to her because of it. I worry about the day when I'm no longer able to see her.
I'm the same. My therapist is autistic too which I think is almost entirely the reason, combined with the fact she feels like the sort of person I'd get along with in the real world anyway.
There's no shame in feeling attached. I speak to mine about it and she assures me that it's completely normal.
Aww thank you.
Hopefully you get to find one that works for you.
Thank you, you seem nice too. I hope you get what you want out of therapy.
If it helps then it helps and that's a good thing to hang on to. I'm sure she does like you, you sound a genuinely nice person.