Published on 12, July, 2020
So many times I’ve bumped into someone I haven’t seen for a while or maybe someone even texted me after a while, and they say “we should meet up and do x”.
In 100% of cases they never get back in touch to do x. In 100% of the small proportion of cases where I’ve approached them to take them up on their offer to do x, some excuse is manufactured and x does not happen.
So WHY do people say this?
I understand, by now, that people saying these things, with no sincerity whatsoever, is merely an NT social ritual.
But I still don't get it. What's the point?
Exactly! I get it too, and as soon as they say something like that to me I just feel like "oh so we're openly lying to each other now, see ya!".
The ones I really don't understand are those who text you out of the blue after months or years to, let's face it, lie.
Amerantin (former member) said:The ones I really don't understand are those who text you out of the blue after months or years to, let's face it, lie.
It is either because:
1 - they want something you can provide.
or
2 - they are just updating their contacts to keep in touch (something talked about on this forum recently)
Try to accept it as normal as a rainy day - it just is what it is and it is best to know how to deal with it.
out_of_step said:Or they're desperate.
relates to point 1
Or they're desperate and everyone else is busy!