Published on 12, July, 2020
So many times I’ve bumped into someone I haven’t seen for a while or maybe someone even texted me after a while, and they say “we should meet up and do x”.
In 100% of cases they never get back in touch to do x. In 100% of the small proportion of cases where I’ve approached them to take them up on their offer to do x, some excuse is manufactured and x does not happen.
So WHY do people say this?
I understand, by now, that people saying these things, with no sincerity whatsoever, is merely an NT social ritual.
But I still don't get it. What's the point?
Exactly! I get it too, and as soon as they say something like that to me I just feel like "oh so we're openly lying to each other now, see ya!".
The ones I really don't understand are those who text you out of the blue after months or years to, let's face it, lie.
out_of_step said:Or they're desperate.
relates to point 1
Or they're desperate and everyone else is busy!
Amerantin (former member) said:The ones I really don't understand are those who text you out of the blue after months or years to, let's face it, lie.
It is either because:
1 - they want something you can provide.
or
2 - they are just updating their contacts to keep in touch (something talked about on this forum recently)
Try to accept it as normal as a rainy day - it just is what it is and it is best to know how to deal with it.
Who does understand that? It's like they just remembered you exist and feel compelled to remind you that they know that.
Again, the point escapes me.