Published on 12, July, 2020
Hey so I’m really struggling to pass my driving test. I’ve been learning with this instructor for around a year. He’s great so chilled really good with my way of learning and doesn’t judge me what so ever. I’ve been learning in total for about 2 years but that’s been spread over 4 years with Covid. I can drive okay and my instructor says my driving is fine but I just can’t pass my test I’m on my 4th one now. If anyone has any tips they would be greatly appreciated
I’ve tried all the sayings all the positive thinking’s and it just doesn’t seem to work I’m so stressed out all the time about my driving. Today in my lesson my instructor asked if I was in therapy or on any meds to help with my anxiety and I said already on meds and can’t go back to therapy for 6 months yet and that’s only the reraferral I’d have to go back on the waiting list and that’s about 3 months so I can’t really go back for another 9. So he’s suggested hypnotherapy just to help me get over my anxiety because he said my driving isn’t bad it’s just nerves and im stressy person. He’s been really helpful but it’s just me and my stress head but then I can’t help but dwell on the bad stuff
That’s the same as me I’ve had a particularly bad lesson today and I feel rubbish about it
That’s what I am doing and my instructor is great he really is but I just seem to struggle so much
I try to think of it like a casual drive it’s just another lesson and so on but it doesn’t help and then my family take the mick because I’m 23 and all thier kids passed by the time they were 20 and only had one attempt
One thing that helped me was to pretend I had already passed the test and the instructor was a friend and we were just going for a joyride. This helped me a lot and after failing 4 times I pretended I had passed and was with my friend and that time I passed!
I think it helped in the sense that I actually felt like it was true and I couldn't fail because I had already passed. I know it wouldn't work for everyone but it definitely worked for me. I've been driving for nearly ten years now and I love it.
It took me two years of lessons (more like 1.5 excluding breaks) and three attempts.
Some lessons I'd be on it and focused, other lessons I'd be all over the place.
The thing that helped me eventually pass is removing expectations. Not being like "I must do it" but just going with it.
I found an automatic much easier as I didn't have to worry about so much in the car & can focus on the road
Are you getting nervous during the test? I failed my first one because my leg was shaking so much my foot slipped off the clutch and I stalled on a roundabout! I’m not really sure what to suggest for calming techniques though except maybe avoiding caffeine if it’s prone to making you more jittery. Is there any pattern to the reasons you fail that you can work on? In the olden days when I took mine they gave you a carbon copy of the sheet that they mark off the faults on. Even if they are things that aren’t a problem in lessons maybe something to be more mindful of when taking the test. Although I did find they used to want you to look in the mirrors so much you can’t be looking forwards enough!