Published on 12, July, 2020
When I was out earlier I saw a group of people who were friends and they were talking fluently with each other, laughing and clearly having a great time. I felt sad seeing it because it's that I long for and have wanted all through school but never got and now I'm 21 and I still have no friends and feel lonely.
I've looked up online tips to try to make friends and be successful with interactions but I'm still no good at it. I can hardly talk to my own family let alone talk to a stranger to try and make friends with. I hope I can make friends with someone one day. I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life.
How about looking up "in your area" on social media or the internet? To find a class or a group that you think you may like? You dont say if you work? Once upon a time i worked in a shop. I said to a colleague that i sometimes go quiet, theres nothing wrong i just go quiet. She replied so do i. Sometimes we need to be brave. I read that we need to allow ourselves to be vulnerable otherwise we miss out. Find your people. They wont come knocking on your door. Be brave and hopefully you will reap the benefits x
Yeh I get we’re your coming from. But just because they look like they’re enjoying themselves in that moment doesn’t mean that they won’t go home tonight and feel bad or have other issues you don’t know about. You’re only seeing that one snapshot of someone’s life behind the scenes their life might not be as good as it looks. I don’t have a group of friends either but I try to find friends through groups. It’s just about meeting people you click with. I have met dozens and dozens of people my own age but I didn’t click with them. That’s just the way life goes sometimes and you either accept it or be bitter about it.
It's hard because I had that and I messed it all up. The amount of times I've walked through town, people in friend groups, faced with the reality that I will never ever have that again.
I don't have the energy either, mainly because I'm still grieving. If there's anything I can say, I would never do anything that you don't feel comfortable with.