I want to be recognised as a carer for my asd partner

You could apply for a carer's assessment.  This covers all sorts of care needs, not just physical and the carer status may not be permanent (although it would likely be in your case).  Any one who is coping with a loved one with any illness (say a mental break down) or disability (say an elderly person with complex physical problems or a an autistic person who requires some level of support) can be a carer.

What happens next depends on the need and the type of care you need to provide.  Sometimes it's just being put in contact with support groups and networks, or emotional support to look after your mental health, or it might extend to things like respite or advice and provisions for practical support.  You need a conversation with them to ascertain need.  There are sometimes official labels and tick boxes with these things.  I am marked as a carer for my elderly parents for instance with my GP.  Because of that they give me a COVID jab along with them as it puts them at risk if I bring COVID to their house.  Sometimes, it can trigger carer's allowance (although maybe not in your case).

It's all a bit wooly, I'm afraid.  Good employers will generally recognise that you have carer responsibilities and should have policies in place to support you; flexible working for instance.  The criteria is normally that you just have some level of carer responsibility.

I am unsure whether you approach the council or the NHS to get a carer's assessment.  I would approach your GP's reception or your local carer's charity to see how you kick start the process.

You could apply for a carer's assessment.  This covers all sorts of care needs, not just physical and the carer status may not be permanent (although it would likely be in your case).  Any one who is coping with a loved one with any illness (say a mental break down) or disability (say an elderly person with complex physical problems or a an autistic person who requires some level of support) can be a carer.

What happens next depends on the need and the type of care you need to provide.  Sometimes it's just being put in contact with support groups and networks, or emotional support to look after your mental health, or it might extend to things like respite or advice and provisions for practical support.  You need a conversation with them to ascertain need.  There are sometimes official labels and tick boxes with these things.  I am marked as a carer for my elderly parents for instance with my GP.  Because of that they give me a COVID jab along with them as it puts them at risk if I bring COVID to their house.  Sometimes, it can trigger carer's allowance (although maybe not in your case).

It's all a bit wooly, I'm afraid.  Good employers will generally recognise that you have carer responsibilities and should have policies in place to support you; flexible working for instance.  The criteria is normally that you just have some level of carer responsibility.

I am unsure whether you approach the council or the NHS to get a carer's assessment.  I would approach your GP's reception or your local carer's charity to see how you kick start the process.

Dawn said:

You could apply for a carer's assessment

I've just Googled that + here is a link to how to apply and what benefits there may be (+ a definition of what 'carer' means in this context).

Thanks for this Dawn.

I really could have done with this when I was a carer (for years) for my mother but I didn't know about it.

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/social-care-and-support-guide/support-and-benefits-for-carers/carer-assessments/