Published on 12, July, 2020
I’ve had problems with using telephones forever, I get anxiety and just struggle with most phone calls. I’m fine with text messages and emails, I still don’t answer them immediately. I understand the difference with being able to plan replies to texts and emails.
My question is a family member just keeps mentioning how I never answer my phone, “why can’t you answer your phone?” It’s something I struggle to explain, I still don’t fully understand.
Is there a really good link or tube video that will explain the reasons why autistic people struggle so much with telephones? It needs to be in very plain language. I’ve tried to explain to the person but normally just shutdown.
I struggle with talking on the phone. I think its the concentration of listening, i hate it. Its almost like i cant hear the person talking through the fog. I much prefer email or writing letters. Maybe its a sensory thing, because i often feel the same when talking to someone in person.
I hate people calling me, i set up phone calls to happen at certain times so I can prepare for it but if I get a random call in the middle of the day I just ignore it and let it ring.
Thank you for sharing those links Ausomely Autistic . I have a similar issue to Roy, although in my case it only tends to be an issue when it's my mother phoning me.
Thank you, I find the first link is very much me, I recently watched another autistic person doing an impromptu talk about their new book, every sentence started with “uhm”, that’s me! That’s been picked up on as well, it gives me time to fast script. To see another person acting the same as me was very affirming.
Do you use Instagram? There are some good explanations of why telephone calls may not suit autistics on that platform.
Alternatively, here are 2 good articles about why telephone calls are not suited to autistics:
https://www.authenticallyemily.uk/blog/why-phone-calls-can-be-incredibly-difficult-for-autistic-people-and-people-with-anxietyhttps://www.thearticulateautistic.com/why-your-autistic-loved-one-doesnt-pick-up-the-phone/
I don’t really understand why your family can’t just accept that you don’t use the phone, after all there are many other ways to communicate!
Anyway, I hope this helps!