Published on 12, July, 2020
I used to be worse with this, but it's interesting how sending follow-up emails is a generally more accepted activity than follow-up texts.
Okay, they are extremely different and come with different levels of expectation, but I think it was always difficult for me to read whether it's acceptable or not.
I don't always know if someone has genuinely forgotten to reply, or they really don't want to. I did used to message quite repeatedly and within a short space of time which I wouldn't do now.
There has been a few cases where, through not responding, the other person didn't feel like they wanted to be friends anymore and it took me raising it. But I think that's more down to something lacking between us two where the other person didn't feel comfortable speaking up.
It's difficult when you really do need a response because you're planning something and you need to buy tickets or whatever so it's a tricky balance.
Follow up emails are absolutely fine whereas follow up texts and messages are deemed as creepy, harassing and may result in a restraining order. Or is that just me?
For me it is like using this community and as Roy said, depending how I am feeling energy wise is if I'll be able to reply quickly or at all. My sister was the same, she was also autistic.
Not just you. I mean I get it, it would be a problem if I followed up on an email every single day. Unless it was super important.
I think I could have purposely held off a bit longer. Even if I am lucky enough to be on my phone at the time to respond instantly it probably is a bit off-putting.
A lot of it depends on the person as well. Some people love to reply instantly and don't have a problem whereas for others it can be off putting. I can reply but will tire after a while. My sister used to be able to reply with no problem until she got sick.
HMO said:I think a lot of it came from my own insecurities
absolutely I relate to that.. insecurities can be a big factor in these things and often affects the outcome.
The good news is you now have experience and will be more prepared for the next time. There's always a silver lining in the dark clouds.
Yeah. I regret not just being honest. I was scared and embarrassed of how they'd react rather than doing what's best.
I think a lot of it came from my own insecurities.