Getting older with a partner who only just agrees to being on the spectrum of aspurges

I’m in my 70’s and dearly love my husband of over 20 years. I’ve known he is asperges as we have in the family. I have tried my best to find communication in a loving way. He now agrees - reluctantly- of his situation. But I’m worn down, and suffer from health problems. Can anyone chat with me about finding a way forward.