Published on 12, July, 2020
Morning all,
I am about to leave my job to become a full time carer for my 2 (soon to be 3) kids. My wife already does this and claims the relevant benefits so it's just a case of signing me up for carers allowance too.
On to my question! I've only had one job before this one, and handed my written notice to the manager in person (retail shop) and it wasn't very fun. Currently in an office job, my manager is the other end of the room in his own office. Can I just email my resignation? I know it will then prompt a chat but I think I would rather that then instigate it myself and do it verbally.
I've gone over the scenario as many times as I can and asked my wife countless times about the process. Any advice welcome on this and how to survive the month long notice period of them going into chaos. (It's a small team)
I think its fine to email. Written confirmation is often required anyway and is proffesional. Dont worry about hiw it is recieved, if its the right way for you x
Thank you all for the responses. I have this morning given my notice in, I ended up catching my manager in the hallway and asked to go to a private meeting room where I handed over a formal letter and we discussed it.
The social aspect went better than I thought but the feeling now after is not as relieved as I hoped I would be, but I am still processing it and know in time I will settle back down.
These days companies often consider an email a written resignation, so if that's more comfortable for you then it's unlikely there will be any issues- but check your contract or any company handbooks/guidelines first just to make sure.
When I left my previous job for my current one I did talk to my boss in person to say I was handing in my notice, but I had worked for her for a long time so it wasn't too scary. The email I sent to her and to HR afterwards was the 'official' resignation. The same process applies at my current job- I like it here but I did check anyway! Things might be different depending on the type of work you do- both jobs I'm talking about are office jobs but something more practical might need an in-person conversation or a hard copy of your resignation letter instead.
Hi- it usually says in your contract what the appropriate way is to give notice (often it has to be in writing) and if there is a notice period. I think in general it is good to do resignations in writing just to have evidence, but that doesn’t mean you can’t talk to your manager first. When I resigned recently, i spoke to my manager explaining the situation and that I was leaving, and then I sent an email to HR with my manager in copy to formalise the resignation, where essentially I also said that I had discussed it with my manager and he was in agreement. You can then also put a date. In terms of whether you speak to your manager first it is up to you- do you have a good relationship with them? If yes maybe you might want to tell them in person first? Or if not comfortable with that that’s ok. But I would check your contract for any instructions on resignations and would make sure it is in writing too . Hope that helps.
How interesting. I also have Autism & ADHD but will still do whatever I can to avoid social interaction. Though had noticed after taking medication for ADHD I was better at handing social situations i.e phone calls.
I definitely agree with the weight, right now I can feel the burden in my chest.
I don't handle confrontation very well, I just go silent and nod. I also feel like I am personally letting that person down - regardless of how they have treated me previously. This time around I feel like I would be inconveniencing the whole team as there are projects coming up they would have wanted me to be heavily involved in.
I will just do the direct social way if it takes the shortest amount of time just to get it over with tbh. Because being autistic I dread having to have a 5 to 30 min phone call or irl chat, but, because I have ADHD too it's not as much as I dread having to sit for an hour writing an email just to say more or less the exact same things and take even longer to do it because one hour doing a boring task easily turns into a whole day and then I have got absolutely nothing else done that day. I always feel so much better after it's done and dusted too, like a weight has been lifted off my soul.
id imagine it would be fun to hand in my notice... why was it not fun for you?did the manager give you grief over it? if so id think the more mad the manager is about it the more id take pleasure in it, they cant stop you going.