Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi, everybody. I'll try to get to the point without blabbering on.
I have not been formally diagnosed, but it's obvious. I'm a woman in my 50s and although I'm not particularly interested in social interaction, I *am* tired of being "the only one who_____" all the time. Anyone relate?
Like I said, I don't need to be *around* other people like me. It would just be nice to know that there are some people like me, somewhere. It's hard not seeing oneself reflected in any way in the larger community. Does any of this sound like any of you? I'm not looking for personal messages or anything. Just a "yeah, me too" would be enough.
Thanks
Yes I too relate to a lot of the things you have identified.
Any need I do have for social interaction is met by being on here. Even that is too much at times.
What I wear is for function, comfort and warmth.
You never see me in heels or dresses either. With dyspraxia I have enough trouble balancing myself to walk in sensible flat footwear. I very much doubt I could walk in heels without ending up in A&E!
I wear lots of warm clothes in winter. You'll be able to recognise me, as I'm the one wearing the silly hat that keeps my ears warm. Even in summer I'm usually covered up in layers, while everyone else is walking around in skimpy tops and shorts.
I cut my own hair too. I haven't been anywhere near a hairdressers in more than 30 years. I can't stand the noise, the forced small talk, being touched, seeing myself in huge mirrors, etc.
I've never had a mani-pedi and never will.
I very much doubt I'm considered 'cute' by anyone and do not have to fend off any attention. I tried dating in my twenties but decided it wasn't for me and have been happily single ever since.
I prefer to live alone and have done so pretty much all my adult life.
I don't have any pets but I feel much more empathy towards animals than I do people. I cannot bear any animal suffering. I love birds and they would be my pets of choice if I were to have any.
I had to learn to mask in order to get by in the workplace. However it destroyed me in a massive burnout and my career ended prematurely.
I enjoy being alone in nature, hiking and birdwatching. I do not go out to bars or restaurants, as I always hated those kinds of environments when I tried them.
I imagine people probably think I'm stuck up too. I no longer particularly care what people think.
I do not own a TV either and I like quiet when I'm at home. If I want to watch TV I go to my mums.
Autonomistic said:You never see me in heels or dresses either. With dyspraxia I have enough trouble balancing myself to walk in sensible flat footwear. I very much doubt I could walk in heels without ending up in A&E!
This made me laugh - because it is 100% me too! Give me flat, flat shoes and totally even ground and I'll probably still trip!
Same with the makeup (wearing it but not being into it). I work with kids, and I've found that if I make zero effort to look like a "woman" that they're used to interacting with, they struggle with learning. It's weird. But when I do my hair, wear more "feminine" clothes, jewelry, make up...everything is much smoother and they relate more. So I do it for work because I do want my day to be easier in that regard. But otherwise...blech! lol
I've never had a pair of heels. Some colleagues tried to "Gok Wan" me once (their words), bringing in a pair of heels. I laughed and smiled along when really I should've told them in good humour to *** off.
I don't have any interest in make up but I do wear it. I can't think of anything worse than a mani or pedicure. What a waste of time.