Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi, everybody. I'll try to get to the point without blabbering on.
I have not been formally diagnosed, but it's obvious. I'm a woman in my 50s and although I'm not particularly interested in social interaction, I *am* tired of being "the only one who_____" all the time. Anyone relate?
Like I said, I don't need to be *around* other people like me. It would just be nice to know that there are some people like me, somewhere. It's hard not seeing oneself reflected in any way in the larger community. Does any of this sound like any of you? I'm not looking for personal messages or anything. Just a "yeah, me too" would be enough.
Thanks
I relate to a lot of this, yes. Not so much the fashion aspects- I'm very interested in clothes and makeup and I do weird things to my hair, though I wouldn't consider myself to be conventional or even aware of popular trends around it all. It's green hair, tattoos, and Doc Martens for me, not... er... well I can't give an example of what's cool at the moment, because I don't know what it is
I will say though that I do my own nails and go to a hairdresser who doesn't mind me sitting in silence (or banging on about our shared love of horror films) because I'm so fussy about being touched and I find it exhausting to be around other people. So despite the aesthetic differences the behavioural stuff is much the same as a lot of other autistic folks, including yourself. I'd rather be at home with my dog!
Thanks for responding! I probably should've added that until I was in my 40s, I was very much into what I wore--like you, it wasn't the latest fashion by any means. It was my own thing--radical pink hair, interesting shoes and jewelry, etc. When I got older, I just lost interest in that. And part of that could've been the after math of abusive relationships...I just decided to be comfortable and who cares what others think because I'm finally free....kind of a rebellion and decision to just be comfy.