Autism attachment

Hi I’m William I have autism and I’m really struggling with it and my attachment to people as well I just want to ask can anyone please give me any tips how to control it cause I feel I’m always making my mum stressed but I just can’t control my attachment please I hope people understand and I’m not a bad person I’m sorry I’m really struggling with it and I feel sad a lot cause I feel missunderstand 

  • Tips.. Sometimes people with ASD can learn to exercise-control over certain situations in conscious and overt ways, this means that they’ve developed a way learn in active-but-odd ways, these get can get reinforced over time as a habit that makes up for their lack of understanding of a certain-type of cognitive-function. 

    In short you may want to seek some therapy, to learn to identify the nature of your behaviour, and possibly learn-and-reinforce a more-positive behaviour. Which is not a bad thing, it’s just that autistic-people tend to require exposure to a healthy-behaviour in order to adopt it, there are no quick-fixes to that it just takes time and intention. But you can get better at anything if you have the mind to expose yourself to it.. again..chin-up..Blush

  • Tips.. well if aggravating-factors are anything to go by anxiety can add to the severity of such problems, so perhaps it’s just a behavioural-inflexibility caused by stress, which in turn only makes the situation more-confusing and anxiety-provoking.

    In short try to reassure-yourself and distract-yourself with your special-interests, panic and concern will get you nowhere, and don’t apologise as you’ve done nothing wrong. Apologies will only make you feel bad, and make other-people think you have something to apologise for, if you must say something just thank others for their patience.. chin-up..Blush

  • That's OK, but if you want to get any useful advice you need to describe your problem more fully. 

  • I’m really sorry 

  • Yeah bu5 she knows I can5 help it 

  • OK, so your mother is finding your attachment to other people inappropriate and stressful.

  • I’m not attached to my mum it’s people who no5 family I’m getting attached to 

  • Does your mother find you too clingy, or does she feel that you ignore her?

  • I don’t know I’m so sorry Cry 

  • I think you need to say whether it is an over-attachment or under-attachment problem.