Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi I’m William I have autism and I’m really struggling with it and my attachment to people as well I just want to ask can anyone please give me any tips how to control it cause I feel I’m always making my mum stressed but I just can’t control my attachment please I hope people understand and I’m not a bad person I’m sorry I’m really struggling with it and I feel sad a lot cause I feel missunderstand
Tips.. Sometimes people with ASD can learn to exercise-control over certain situations in conscious and overt ways, this means that they’ve developed a way learn in active-but-odd ways, these get can get reinforced over time as a habit that makes up for their lack of understanding of a certain-type of cognitive-function.
In short you may want to seek some therapy, to learn to identify the nature of your behaviour, and possibly learn-and-reinforce a more-positive behaviour. Which is not a bad thing, it’s just that autistic-people tend to require exposure to a healthy-behaviour in order to adopt it, there are no quick-fixes to that it just takes time and intention. But you can get better at anything if you have the mind to expose yourself to it.. again..chin-up..
Tips.. well if aggravating-factors are anything to go by anxiety can add to the severity of such problems, so perhaps it’s just a behavioural-inflexibility caused by stress, which in turn only makes the situation more-confusing and anxiety-provoking.
In short try to reassure-yourself and distract-yourself with your special-interests, panic and concern will get you nowhere, and don’t apologise as you’ve done nothing wrong. Apologies will only make you feel bad, and make other-people think you have something to apologise for, if you must say something just thank others for their patience.. chin-up..
That's OK, but if you want to get any useful advice you need to describe your problem more fully.
I’m really sorry
Can’t
Yeah bu5 she knows I can5 help it
OK, so your mother is finding your attachment to other people inappropriate and stressful.
I’m not attached to my mum it’s people who no5 family I’m getting attached to
Does your mother find you too clingy, or does she feel that you ignore her?
I don’t know I’m so sorry
I think you need to say whether it is an over-attachment or under-attachment problem.