Published on 12, July, 2020
I find myself having to act like someone else just to get through work and get on with colleagues and talk in the shops. Don't know if there's a term for it. I wish I could just be myself but I don't think I could get through the day if I did that.
Ha ha thanks. The world is so judging I wish people were more understanding and supportive. I make friends before but when I was myself they didn't want to know
I'm pretty sure this is what I'm like when I unmask. My true self.
Seriously though don't shut yourself away from the world.
You should be yourself and if other people don't like it then they aren't worth your time.
We all have a place in this world.
I always feel like when I unmask the whole world is laughing at me. I don't know what I'm like when I unmask I'm so used to masking now
Masking is an exhausting thing to do and it can cause an awful lot of confusion as well because you can start to feel fake when you unmask. I try not to mask as much now as it negatively affects me in a lot of ways.
Always be yourself mate. You are unique and you shouldn't hide from the world. Embrace who you are.
Peace.
Judge Dredd said:I need guidance on how to be LESS aspie, not more
Please be aware that because autism is something you are, trying to be something different (through masking for example) will cause stress and anxiety.
It is quite possible to do this for some of us (I have been able to do it more or less effectively for the last 20 years) but it always comes at the cost of being emotionally drained and at risk of burnout.
If you want to do this then good luck but I think you will find making space to be more authentic to your self at times will be a great way to recharge.
To get advice from people trying to be less aspie?
Why do you think you wouldnt get through the day if you were to be yourself?
Masking has exhausted me. But i didnt know that i was doing it until i realised earlier this year, that i am autistic. Little by litte why not try dropping your mask, where you feel comfortable to do so. You should be accepted as you are. But we have put on the mask, so this is who oeople think we are. But still some of my personality would show. Sometimes people would laugh at me, but most of the time it didnt bother me. But i was naive and didnt see it. Some things go over my head.
You could be masking some amazing qualities that you have. It is a very interesting subject.
In a work environment and depending on the role that we have or have had, i imagine some settings could make it a challenge for us to drop our mask, but if we are good at what we do, which is usually the case, then lets encourage each other to have more confidence to be ourselves.
Judge Dredd said:The last thing I need is interaction with other aspies
What are you doing on here then?
No thanks. The last thing I need is interaction with other aspies. I need guidance on how to be LESS aspie, not more
Hello. You seem to be talking about autistic masking. Here are some resources on the subject:
https://theautisticadvocate.com/autistic-masking/
2. Aucademy video- Autistic Masking
https://www.youtube.com/live/NVItB4UZbDY?feature=share
I hope this helps!
Yes masking is a survival strategy we all do it. You can always be yourself on here though
It's called "masking" or "survival". Either you learn to do that, or you will end up in a psych ward or a jail. It's not pleasant, but will keep you living.
Here's the national autistic society's page on masking. It might be of some use for you: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/professional-practice/autistic-masking
Thanks.
Yes it could be masking. I feel so much pressure when I'm out of my comfort zone and that's what happens to me.
Sorry about your situation. I hope things get better.
It sounds like masking. A lot of autistic people do this to get through challenging situations. I understand feeling like someone else. I've had many faces this is my life since a few years ago after extreme trauma that I now struggle to feel like myself. Like masking but much more severely. Anyway, if you do mask make sure you have plenty of you time and self care so you can destress and unwind. That's important to do.