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Washing - why so hard?

Autumn_Trees
over 1 year ago

This is quite embarrassing to write but I'm going to do it anyway. Okay - this might just be a 'me' thing - if that's the case please just ignore this post but: 

Why is getting washed and/or clean so hard?

I don't know if it is an autistic thing but getting in the shower/changing clothes/changing bedding and doing laundry is so hard for me. I am an independent adult I should be able to function better. :( 

I just had a shower and washed my hair for the first time in X weeks (too ashamed to say). I feel better now and I smell nice, so why don't I manage to do it more often? 

I live alone and rarely go out or see people, so my lack of washing isn't bothering anyone. I wanted to ask my weekly cleaner to help me change my sheets but I am too ashamed for her to see the state of my bed so its something I will have to tackle alone. 

Anyway, if anyone can relate please comment below, or if you just want to tell me I'm being a big baby that's also fine.

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  • over 1 year ago

    Yeah I can sort of relate, the variation of RRBs and the severity of them, and many and beyond the count of disbelieving, but I have gone to great lengths to social-contact.  
    Having said that when I do have a working shower, which I don’t, I display self-injurious behaviours in the form of having too hot and long a shower. But because the shower temp is broken, as I lack the social-fortitude to utilise the repairman, I now only occasionally shower my way through the torturous-process of the cold-shower.  
    You don’t even want to know the dirt-low levels I stooped to, to avoid social-contact, during Covid, let’s just say that only the process of having my licensee contact expire, saved me from the circumstances that led to my increasing-levels of squalor, such is my hatred of dealing with half-arsed workmen..

  • over 1 year ago in reply to DeSpereaux

    I love your phrase: ‘I lack the social-fortitude to utilise the repairman’! 
    That is DEFINITELY a problem in our house! I’ll do virtually anything to avoid people coming to the house to repair things, so we end up doing a lot of DIY - and with quite patchy results! When our cooker broke down (sort of exploded!) I could face buying a new one and having one delivered so we ended up cooking our meals on a camping stove for nearly three months! I ended up preferring it, but my husband and son wanted an oven for Pizza etc, so I have to deal with it all eventually. 

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  • over 1 year ago in reply to DeSpereaux

    I love your phrase: ‘I lack the social-fortitude to utilise the repairman’! 
    That is DEFINITELY a problem in our house! I’ll do virtually anything to avoid people coming to the house to repair things, so we end up doing a lot of DIY - and with quite patchy results! When our cooker broke down (sort of exploded!) I could face buying a new one and having one delivered so we ended up cooking our meals on a camping stove for nearly three months! I ended up preferring it, but my husband and son wanted an oven for Pizza etc, so I have to deal with it all eventually. 

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