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Neurodivergent Love Languages

Ausomely Autistic

Hello fellow autistic people! In case you didn’t know neurodivergent love languages are a popular and well known aspect of autistic culture on social media. I particularly love info dumping and deep pressure, parallel play. 

The 5 languages are:

  1. Info dumping- we do a lot of info dumping here.
  2. Parallel play/Body Doubling - sharing space together whilst doing different activities 
  3. Spoon Sharing/Support Swapping- sharing our energy 
  4. Please Crush My Soul Back Into My Body (deep pressure)
  5. Penguin Pebbling - sharing small gifts or memes with neurodivergent friends/family (usually related to dedicated interests)

I particularly like penguin pebbling with my autistic friend. I like to send them memes related to their dedicated interests.

Which language do you relate to most?

Here is an article that explains the languages in more depth:

https://stimpunks.org/2022/01/22/the-five-neurodivergent-love-languages-2/

I love this aspect of our autistic culture, I hope you find it interesting too!

  • in reply to Char
    Char said:
    Ahhhhh! This explains everythingggggggg! 

    You seem very excited, these love languages are a huge part of autistic culture.

    Char said:
    • Info dumping - on every and anything I learn! People often think I'm super chatty because of this (then get confused when I don't talk for ages or go silent).. but I have an intense need to share the information that I think is super important

    What is your favourite topic to info dump about? I understand what you mean about people thinking you are super chatty, I only really become animated and super chatty when talking about my interests.

    Of course the information is super important because it obviously makes you happy and you feel passionately about it. For some reason NT’s usually don’t share the same urgency.

    Char said:
    • sharing memes specifically and if I see something related to what a friend or family member said they like.. I'll buy it as a gift. (I prefer gifting people this way than for Christmas and birthdays as it feels so forced

    Birthdays and Christmas definitely feel forced because they are social conventions, whereas penguin pebbling is unprompted, spontaneous with no expectations. It is a way of showing you are thinking of someone.

    Char said:
    . we don't have to talk.. just the company is

    Exactly!

  • in reply to Char
    Char said:
    Ahhhhh! This explains everythingggggggg! 

    A moment of realisation, these love languages are a huge part of autistic culture!

    Char said:
    ! People often think I'm super chatty because of this (then get confused when I don't talk for ages or go silent).. but I have an intense need to share the information that I think is super important

    What is your favourite topic to info dump about? I understand what you mean about people thinking you are super chatty, I only really become very chatty and animated when talking about my interests too.

    Of course the information is super important because it is related to one of your passions. NT’s don’t usually have the same urgency that we do when talking about passions.

    Char said:
    • Penguin Pebbling -  sharing memes specifically and if I see something related to what a friend or family member said they like.. I'll buy it as a gift. (I prefer gifting people this way than for Christmas and birthdays as it feels so forced

    I agree that Christmas and birthday gift giving feels forced, it is a social convention whereas penguin pebbling is spontaneous with no expectation.

    Char said:
    we don't have to talk.. just the company is nice

    Exactly!

  • Ahhhhh! This explains everythingggggggg! Joy

    My main ones are:

    • Info dumping - on every and anything I learn! People often think I'm super chatty because of this (then get confused when I don't talk for ages or go silent).. but I have an intense need to share the information that I think is super important
    • Penguin Pebbling -  sharing memes specifically and if I see something related to what a friend or family member said they like.. I'll buy it as a gift. (I prefer gifting people this way than for Christmas and birthdays as it feels so forced
    • Parallel play/Body Doubling - sharing space together whilst doing different activities - as I'm writing this.. my partner is gaming and I'm just on my laptop.. we don't have to talk.. just the company is nice
  • in reply to Ausomely Autistic

    I love eating bratwurst, saurkraut and fried potatoes but my wife is better at cooking that than me!
    My speciality is paella. I also make a nice Hungarian goulash and chicken, ham and leek pie 

  • in reply to JT

    That’s nice of you, I bet your partner really appreciates your efforts.

  • in reply to Billy87

    Making in general I say. I take particular pride and satisfaction in making my partner feel special. I go to town on her biggest birthdays, it's just how I show my dedication

  • in reply to Billy87
    Billy87 said:
    Parellel play is one I particulary enjoy. Sometimes me and my wife can be sat next to each other doing completely different things and hardly even speaking but it is a time that I find so peaceful and enjoyable.

    Thanks for sharing. I love parallel play too, for me it is about sharing space with someone else without having any expectations. I like the company. There is definitely something peaceful about parallel play, I agree.

  • in reply to Billy87

    You are very welcome. That’s nice of you! Cooking is a great way of showing how much you care for someone. It definitely seems like one of your autistic love languages.

    What is your favourite meal to cook? I know you love everything related to Germany, is it German inspired perhaps?

  • Thank you for sharing these, it is such a blessing. 
    I dont know if it is a common autistic love language but cooking for people is a big one for me. I tend to show my love for people by cooking lovely meals for them 

  • Parellel play is one I particulary enjoy. Sometimes me and my wife can be sat next to each other doing completely different things and hardly even speaking but it is a time that I find so peaceful and enjoyable. I will be sat making my beads and she will be sorting through her reciples

    My son does parallel play a lot too