Unconditional Love

Thanks so much, really appreciate your support, hope I can return it to you at some point xxx

Thanks so much to you too. I’m blown away by all the positivity in the replies to my sharing about our love. Atm I’m very physically poorly, chest+throat infection, exhaustion, allergies plus possibly fibromyalgia which is being explored. Her response had been one of huge empathy and practicality, and all with the eye and ear for how this illness is playing out so badly with sensory aspects of my autism. I’m incredibly lucky to have her and needless to say am life committed to her 

Thanks JT, I’ve always tried to be kind to everyone and will definitely pay forward best as I can. I wish everyone had a Hazel, then there’d be no hurt, no abuse, no cruelty, she is amazing 

You’ve summed it up perfectly here and it captures so much of what we share. We met just over a year ago when volunteering at Cats Protecton and every day since I’ve given thanks for our friendship and love and partnership xxx

Thanks so very much, she is amazing in every way, the first person ever in my 65 years to really try to genuinely understand me, accept me just as I am and care for me in meaningful and practical ways, I’m just so lucky 

Sorry not to have replied to your comment sooner. As I’ve mentioned religion has been a huge problem in my life and source of abuse. I’ll try to avoid mentioning it in future. 

I’ll take on board your comment in future posts, particularly trying to avoid religion which has been a huge problem in my life and where I have suffered much abuse. Thanks 

Cloud Factory. I really like the way you write, & I feel you could help me, plus, I really like to do what makes people happy, and I did indeed start deleting the thread as asked.

But halfway through doing that, I realised that I should not, for a lot of reasons some of which have been clearly articulated above. 

I hope you will come to accept as I have the wisdom in the saying that was quoted to me in a differnt context:

"when you've met one xxxxx You've met one xxxxx..." I believe that is true for Gays, Christians, and Autists alike. (Plus any other group you might name). 

"Unconditional Love" is the title of the post, it's also the very bedrock of Christianity, if the Christians you met didn't manage to get that across or live that life then it's a "people failure" not the faith itself. Done even halfway right Christianity makes things better, and I am so sorry you did not get to experience that part.

TBF to me, I wrote way more about cats which I'd hoped (and expected) you'd relate to, and enjoy, than I did the bit you don't like.

I can only apologise for getting it wrong as far as you are concerned, but as I do with other posters who have not found me to be their particular cup of tea, as I learn I will try and make the reasonable adjustments needed to tailor my interactions with you, to be more to your liking, without actually being disingenuous.

I agree. This is an open public forum. If it isn't for you you needn't concern yourself further with the comment

Amazing, its an amazing example of unconditional love. And i am too much for our love.

Unconditional love is a type of love that is not dependent on any conditions or requirements. It is a love that is given freely, without any expectations of receiving something in return. Unconditional love is often associated with parental love, as parents are often thought to love their children unconditionally. However, unconditional love can be felt and expressed in any type of relationship, whether it be between romantic partners, friends, or even strangers.

Unconditional love is characterized by acceptance, forgiveness, and compassion. It involves loving someone for who they are, flaws and all, without trying to change them or expecting them to change for your benefit. Unconditional love is also about supporting someone through their struggles and being there for them during both the good times and the bad.

It's my favourite writing of the year. 

The second half of this post made me smile so much - congratulations on finding unconditional love with Hazel, and thanks for sharing as it was lovely to read something so positive 

I'm not sure that attempting to police replies in threads is all that fair. If you raise a subject, as you did with religion, then it is reasonable to accept that it will be commented on.

Congrats Emma, what a lovely post to read.

Interesting you note 'she isn't autistic herself but knows intuitively...' and I think that's amazing. That is the ideal scenario. I guess this is what real empathy is, not just sympathising with an issue but really accommodating it through action/support.

I feel fortunate to also share some of this in my partner. Being only 6 months in to diagnosis it is a process still developing, it is a journey of unmasking/discovery for both myself and my partner, and I'm aware there are no guarantees in that. It's a tough journey for all involved.

But I think what your situation displays well is how, in starting in a new relationship, you have been excepted as yourself right away. This again is great to read, it gives me faith in my fellow humans that we might really see each other for who we are, not the label we carry.

Enjoy it. Also, pay it forward where you can, we need more of this sort of love in the world

I would be grateful if you would delete this reply. There could be a place to debate Christianity but this isn’t it, it’s my post in celebration of the unconditional love I have found with Hazel. I could talk at length about my views on Christianity but I’m not going to, here at least. So as I said please delete your reply

Although it would be very easy for me to fall into the role of "opening batsman for the other team" what real human can resist the joy in that posting?

And what practicing Christian, myself included has ever read anything Jesus said against homosexuality? Fornication, which I do every so often as a result of my lifestyle, IS the deviation from the ideal path, (however it is done) that is the real soul corrupter. NO-ONE, least of all myself, meets up to those simple two instructions that Jesus ACTUALLY gave, and most of "Christianity" seems to reference the other books where Jesus does not take a leading role, and hence comes through a human interpreter, which is where all the trouble (and almost everyone's confusion about the actual words and deeds of Christ) starts.

As a Christian, all the "improving" I should be accomplishing should be personal to me, and Jesus. Yes, I do have an obligation to give you the good news, AKA lead you to Jesus and the state of grace that even I get to feel on my better days. 

I really am a sterling example of a hypocrite at first glance, but I try very hard to imitate his life. The only people I remember Jesus condemning were the people who sit in judgment of others, and the people who create systems of money and profit from their existence, and thus elevate themselves above others, rather than by honest merit. Let he who sin without sin cast the first stone etc...

Please don't judge the faith without performing your own independent investigation into at least one gospel, just as you did not like those who profess the faith "judging" you, (if indeed that was what they were doing) "evaluating" looks an awful lot like judging if the subject of evaluation has preconceptions and misconceptions about you.

And please, whatever role in life I might appear to play in some peoples eyes, keep talking to me about cats and how CP works. And "cat wrangling". I managed to annoy my cat the other day, he showed me in his posture, nothing like the lengths some poor cats have to go to register displeasure, and I think I'm repeatedly doing something he doesn't really like, (apart from the stints of typing and mousing activity) but there's something...

I can't service every request, every time (As with humans the more you do, the more they want) but I try to put my own needs aside to an extent some openly call excessive, so I guess I do enough... Blackjack was the pioneer of the "seven services" I'll catalog how many things these can ask for soon, when they've stopped teaching me new ones. I'm typing the end of this one handed whilst the other hand holds the wireless keyboard over the gently burbling great big Ginger MaineCoon looking shorthair on my lap.

I can't help but love anyone who works for the organisation that hooked us up with these beauties...

I think the closest I got to doing "unconditional love" properly was with Maqi. He took three years to stop disliking me enough to start be careful not to injure my poor hands... He really had no time for me at all, but I decided, I loved him any way for what he was (a small cat alone in the world who we "rescued by purchase" deliberately when CP would't give us a cat after BJ crossed the rainbow bridge) and how happy he made my GF. (SHE was for love, I was for violence...) From the three year point I became acceptable, even worthy of a face rub or a very occasional bit of edgy "laptime" but my performance was always being measured, and some days I clearly required a sharp look or two, if not some hardcore disdain... Sadly the day before he gave me some of what this lovely boy gives me so abundantly was the day before I was to slide his awfully cold self out from under the sofa from whence he was pitifully calling, and get to learn what a saddle thrombosis is... Worse, was to watch my G/F go through exactly what I had to with B.J. but all of a sudden. I have to watch her catch herself every so often realising and trying to forget that these cats aren't her beloved cat, she will never love them the same (but at least I know that the new and different flavour love is growing in her for these little (huge really) guys...

Too much? I hope I haven't upset anyone this time by "being me"...

This is the stuff I like to hear. 
Well happy for you CF.