Melt downs

Hi, sorry you feel so bad at the moment. I'm about to go into a big meltdown because of so many changes going on. The thoughts will pass, even if it doesn't feel like it in the moment, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't concentrate on you (and your son). 

I used to take mine to a sensory room when I felt like this and just bask in the calm. Maybe that's something you can try? 

Please remember to take care of you too.

In my experience, those inflatorers can have cigar plugs that only work in some car cigar sockets - if it isn't working for you, I suspect that will be the problem  They can be fickle things.

It's technology biting the hand it once fed me with. 

Bummer.  I hope you manage some restful kip at your earliest convenience.

I am having an overload. No sleep tonight, and I drove to town, to get a tyre inflator at a 24 hour shop; which I didn't know how to use. In the end, the local breakdown man will air her for me, later. 

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Congratulations on achieving a successful 12 months of parenting - they get a cake, but you deserve a medal.

Hello 70431.  I am Number.

You are right.  It can be extremely painful.  It can be hard to know how we can carry on.  But we do.  We must.  We want to, but we just struggle to understand how.  I still don't know how we do it - but we do.  You will.  You know this.  It is actually OK.  Congratulations on achieving a successful 12 months of parenting - they get a cake, but you deserve a medal.  Stay calm.  Allow yourself permission to feel how you do.  The world keeps spinning and so do you.

Stick around these pages - strength can be drawn from here.

Welcome.

Hi, I’m sorry you are feeling low at the moment, I find my own birthday one of the worst days of the year, the day has no routine and too many expectations are made of you on the day.  It was your sons first birthday, so a lot of expectations from all. I think you did well to contain yourself and meltdown afterwards. Your In laws are a  different generation, they often don’t understand autism, it’s the lifelong remarks from people as being rude or not really trying, it starts to grate in the end. Just don’t beat yourself up, your partner obviously knows you are autistic, we sometimes need either leaving alone or support, it is a bit of a minefield for our partners. Just remember you are autistic and the official report at diagnosis states,”requires support,” you did really well in dealing with such a big day. Not being patronising, chin up.

Hello There - I’m sorry you are going through such a tough time, it’s good that you’ve let us know what’s happening/how you feel. Many people have similar thoughts when coping with so much and we hope you’re okay.  

If you are unable to cope with the distress or despair, it’s very important to tell someone about your feelings or thoughts of suicide. Call your GP and make an urgent appointment. Your GP can make sure you get appropriate help and support. If it’s outside your GP hours call  111 to reach the NHS 111 service: https://www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/urgent-and-emergency-care-services/when-to-use-111/ 

The Samaritans also provide confidential non-judgemental emotional support, 24 hours a day on 116 123, or by email on jo@samaritans.org. 

MIND have information pages on coping with self harm or suicidal feelings based on the experiences of people who’ve been through it that you may find helpful.  

If you are very close to doing something to hurt yourself - call 999 now or go to your nearest A&E department. There should be someone there to support you and make sure you get ongoing support. You can find more information here: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health/suicide 

Take care,

SarahMod