So that's wierd,son knew my conversation without even being there..???

and i also had people be so unaware about sound and say things they dont want me to hear when im standing right next to them. i guess normal people are pretty deaf and dont understand sound very well.

i recently even heard my dads car tyres were punctured... i heard the flowing of air out of it make a squeaking noise.... no one else heard this squeaking noise when i pointed it out and didnt seem to believe me at first until i pointed out a bit of rain reacting to a leak and bubbling up out of the area my ears perceived as making a noise.

and in college the teacher had a hearing aid that made a stupidly loud high pitched noise that made me jump and hold my ears, no one else reacted to that or could hear it and was wondering what i was doing despite how to me it was stupidly massively loud, loud enough to be painful on the ears so i was thinking they are all crazy for not hearing that loud noise. but they were deaf to that pitch.

houses arnt as soundproof as you like to think, and human hearing can be stronger than you understand... especially in autists.

myself my ears can still pick up cat alarms and i can hear conversations through walls no matter how thick the wall. i can hear trains from my bedroom at night but the train track is like 50 miles away. dont underestimate the scope of human hearing ability.... perhaps your son may even display a seemingly bad hearing where he cant really hear or comprehend people speaking to him upfront and to him it sounds mumbly, so you perhaps may think his hearing is bad, but that is just different frequency, a person may not perceive direct sound locally but may instead be tuned into long ranged distant sound, and that longer range sound is more pronounced and drowns out the shorter more direct sound... either way everyones ears work differently. he can have ears that can hear you... or perhaps he was actually outside your door at the time without you knowing, listening in after hearing some noise and hearing you talking and wanting to hear what you were saying or if your talking to someone... a house is not private, never has been.... i never liked living in my parents house as i perceive it as not private enough, everyone seems to normalise this lack of privacy as if they think it is private but people are just unaware about how sound travels easily through your doors and walls and nothing in your house is secure.... your tv can even be heard from outside the house, think on that next time your watching anything youd be ashamed of others knowing you watched lol nothing in your house is private as houses arnt built truly private.

Yup is what I thought..he heard it.

Was my feeling exactly as it was too accurate what he was saying to be coincidence. I know he has heightened hearing and sight but I didn't think to that extent. I am neuro typical but I am able to predict things often so he has that also from me so it's no wonder .

Awesome thanks so much:)

Yes is my thoughts exactly,  I don't know you personally but if I did I would be shaking your hand in thanks ! :) These posts are beneficial as someonelse somewhere may read it and you will have helped them too!

I have extraordinary hearing, I can hear things ridiculously far away. So I would say that he heard the conversation. It’s a conversation that all parents need to have with their children. Death is part of life. Use it as an opportunity to talk about it.

JuniperFromGallifrey said:

2 discs set up in polar opposite corners

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if you want to find out how it works watch this www.youtube.com/watch

There are a few differences which make Autistics unique and one is we don't easily filter out incoming sensory input (sound, lights, scented elements & chemicals, etc.). We can be as sensitive as dogs. It's not just this, but sound is conducted and sometimes enhanced through all kinds of materials. Some science galleries have 2 discs set up in polar opposite corners incredibly far away from each other to give an example of the importance of the physics of acoustics.

Children who are diagnosed Aspergers, are usually diagnosed this because of their capacity for intellect. They still have the same Autistic differences - a difficulty filtering out unwanted sensory information (we don't ever dull our senses, so we need to learn to shield them properly), the Montroptic brain (hyper-focus, making hyper-connexions - this is a type of full brain reasoning and can drive us to need to resolve) and a different way of being social. Autistics relate with one another (empathy) easily, while not being able to make sense of our NueroNormative peers. We can naturally be more Authentic due to having a brain which doesn't filter out unwanted signals the same: Everything can seem too real or 'all-at-once'. And so we tend to be more Environmental focused by Nature / design.

I used to live in a 3 bed 2 bath flat. On the other side of the flat I could hear the buzz from the CFL lights in the kitchen. Often I'd just shut them off. But my ex partner couldn't hear them even in the kitchen. One day I asked him to turn them off from the other side of the house and he tested me by turning them off and on a few times telling me to shout if I heard them on. I hadn't been diagnosed, we both worked in sound, so he just assumed I was "made for the job".

Another side to this is our emotional being. Sometimes we might appear like we're distant, but we're often confused. As children we're aware that people don't say what they mean and we cannot work out what they do... I still ask for close friends to be direct. A lot of hiding and pretending happens in society. While the majority of people might have a desire to be authentic and unique, we feel too marginalised and would actually love to be able to connect and camouflaged.

What I'm trying to explore isn't just that yes, he can sense a great deal more than you might be able to, but also, perhaps while still being responsible with your feelings, you might be able to let your guard down around him occasionally and express that you want to help. Or ask how you can help. Life is hard, you want the best for your son. Autistics tend to sense things at a deeper level, a more intense level, but miss the seemingly invisible social 'facade', so a little openness and being human when with him might even help give him reasons to take on more responsibility as he grows up.