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So that's wierd,son knew my conversation without even being there..???

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Had a emotional chat with my close friend as we bothe single parents and discussing about our fears around when we get very old (or even worse younger) and die who will be there for them and my worries around my sons aspergers how life will be extra tough for him etc. What was wierd was that I was having this conversation in my room on the phone with door shut he was in different part of house on computer playing game and no way could he have heard me..but next day he had changed radically from being happy to absolutely depressed saying to me what's the point you're going to die and ill be on my own etc and it was wierd as the kind of things he was coming out with were as though he'd heard the conversation on the phone that I had had night before as he never spoke like this before but it leaves me feeling he actually picks up on stuff and any future conversation like this I need to do it in a geographicaly different place to him.

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  • There are a few differences which make Autistics unique and one is we don't easily filter out incoming sensory input (sound, lights, scented elements & chemicals, etc.). We can be as sensitive as dogs. It's not just this, but sound is conducted and sometimes enhanced through all kinds of materials. Some science galleries have 2 discs set up in polar opposite corners incredibly far away from each other to give an example of the importance of the physics of acoustics.

    Children who are diagnosed Aspergers, are usually diagnosed this because of their capacity for intellect. They still have the same Autistic differences - a difficulty filtering out unwanted sensory information (we don't ever dull our senses, so we need to learn to shield them properly), the Montroptic brain (hyper-focus, making hyper-connexions - this is a type of full brain reasoning and can drive us to need to resolve) and a different way of being social. Autistics relate with one another (empathy) easily, while not being able to make sense of our NueroNormative peers. We can naturally be more Authentic due to having a brain which doesn't filter out unwanted signals the same: Everything can seem too real or 'all-at-once'. And so we tend to be more Environmental focused by Nature / design.

    I used to live in a 3 bed 2 bath flat. On the other side of the flat I could hear the buzz from the CFL lights in the kitchen. Often I'd just shut them off. But my ex partner couldn't hear them even in the kitchen. One day I asked him to turn them off from the other side of the house and he tested me by turning them off and on a few times telling me to shout if I heard them on. I hadn't been diagnosed, we both worked in sound, so he just assumed I was "made for the job".

    Another side to this is our emotional being. Sometimes we might appear like we're distant, but we're often confused. As children we're aware that people don't say what they mean and we cannot work out what they do... I still ask for close friends to be direct. A lot of hiding and pretending happens in society. While the majority of people might have a desire to be authentic and unique, we feel too marginalised and would actually love to be able to connect and camouflaged.

    What I'm trying to explore isn't just that yes, he can sense a great deal more than you might be able to, but also, perhaps while still being responsible with your feelings, you might be able to let your guard down around him occasionally and express that you want to help. Or ask how you can help. Life is hard, you want the best for your son. Autistics tend to sense things at a deeper level, a more intense level, but miss the seemingly invisible social 'facade', so a little openness and being human when with him might even help give him reasons to take on more responsibility as he grows up. 

  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey
    JuniperFromGallifrey said:
    2 discs set up in polar opposite corners

    parabolic radio antenas

    if you want to find out how it works watch this www.youtube.com/watch

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