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Possible autistic child

NAS82559

Hi I’ve been reading up autism and think maybe my daughter is on the spectrum . She’s 15 yrs old and for the past 2 yrs she’s gradually withdrawn socially and is none existent at school anymore . She cannot mentally allow herself to physically go to school and how as a parent do I make her if make is the right word . We have contact with school who just seem to be interested in her attendance nothing more . She doesn’t know why she won’t go and says there’s no bullying or anything sinister she just sits in her room 24/7 and only comes out for food . Need help but just cannot find any doctor says they are limited due to her age she’s also a angry child any advice would be welcome thanks

  • Hi my daughter is going through the same thing. She left school age 15 last year and didn't go back. She couldn't cope with the noise or the social aspect of it. The school were meant to put her on the pathway at 13 but never did it. Because she could mask most of the time they didn't feel she was autistic and I'm pretty sure they just could not be bothered to help. I went to cahms directly last year and had a meeting. They agreed to put her forward for assessment. Unfortunately she's been waiting nearly a year already. I called the other day to see how long it would be and they said it would be another 2 and half years because of the delay with covid. She cannot go to college because it is too much for her. She stays in her room most of the time also and only comes down for food. She cannot work because noise and people make her too anxious. She's a very intelligent child but I havent found anyone to help me. I would advise you ring cahms yourself and ask to be seen.  

  • in reply to NAS82559

    That is ridiculous, but unfortunately I think some gps can be like that with autism and children. If possible talk to a different gp but it's good you're waiting to hear back from camhs hopefully they can help get the ball rolling in the right direction for you :) 

    Don't beat yourself up for not noticing and acting sooner. It's not always obvious at first and life can be busy at the best of times. I'm sorry she's had so many meltdowns understandable though school is very stressful. Sadly support is hard to find but hopefully someone will be able to help you x

  • in reply to Luna

    Hi thanks for the reply our gp seemed reluctant to be involved with someone under 16 which I found ridiculous and he advised us to talk to school and a school resource called camhs. School only seem interested in her attendance not the reasons for her absence and so we await this camhs help service where it will lead who knows . I feel she needs to be assessed by some sort of professional but nothing seems to be happening at all . This all started during covid I believe although in hindsight there were problem signs we should of picked up on before covid but two working full time parents and ridiculous working hrs maybe some of it is our fault for not been there and occupied with daily life . We have experienced the meltdowns every Monday morning and we are not willing to put her through that anymore no way just feeling there is no help or anyone that understands what’s going on . 

  • Hi and welcome. Sorry you're struggling with your daughter. Can the gp help you get in touch with a service that can help? I wouldn't force her to go though it could cause meltdown and none of you need that.

    This page on Nas might help. 

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/diagnosis

    There's pages like broaching the subject, pre diagnosis and more.

    And this one is for education. 

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/education

    I hope this helps :)